Single in Atlanta: An Introduction
Before I introduce the "Single in Atlanta" blog, let me first tell you a little bit about me. I'm a 24-year-old woman in Atlanta with an already successful career, a mortgage and great family and friends. And at the risk of sounding vain, I'd consider myself an attractive female (and I've heard this from others many a time). Oh, and I'm currently, and seemingly forever, single.
But I haven't always lived the single life. To make a long story short, I was a quiet child. In elementary and middle school you would've found me keeping to myself, thoroughly engaged in a book more suitable as a booster seat or doodling swirls and squiggles on a notebook. I had my first kiss at age 12 (an odd experience - it was under water in a swimming pool, go figure!) and my first make-out session at age 13. Those were both one-off experiences, though. I'm not sure how normal that's considered, but it was around that age that my dating life officially started.
In a strange twist of events, my parents got divorced, and my family moved to a new county where I would begin high school. It was then that I realized I had an opportunity to be the "new girl" - the girl that is mysterious, popular, and yes, all the boys want her. So I revamped my personality and became someone new. Throughout high school I made a variety of friends in a number of different social groups - I was a cheerleader, I hung out with some of the potheads, I had musician friends, athlete friends, I knew band geeks, and I was still a nerd at heart. My mass appeal had it's positives and negatives. On the plus side, I dated a lot - the hot seniors, varsity athletes, drama thespians, potheads, felons... the list goes on. None of my high school "relationships" were serious, though, and upon graduating high school I realized that I was never really "single" during my previous 4 years. So I cut all ties and moved off to college that summer as a single woman, ready to mingle.
At the start of college, I figured out how to manage classes, homework, a social life, part-time work and greek life (yes, I joined a sorority) pretty quickly. And thanks to the nature of college, I was meeting a ton of new people and making a lot of new friends. My true single days only lasted a few months until one night when my girlfriends and I walked into a bar - as soon as I caught a glimpse of the bartender, I was instantly hooked and I knew I would not be single for much longer. Believe it or not, it was love at first sight, at least for me.
For weeks I forced my friends to go with me back to that bar night after night in hopes that Bartender was working. Week one, I learned his name. Week two, I left my number for him. Week three, I left my number for him again and flirted extra hard. Week four, he finally acknowledged me - he knew my name, he wasn't working that night, and we danced the night away. That week, we also had our first kiss and our first actual date.
That's when my brief stint as a hot, confident, single, college girl had come to a close. Over the next two years (and most of my college career), Bartender and I dated. And over those two years, I had fallen into a love so deep, one that I had never experienced before and one that I haven't experienced again to this day. Needless to say, that relationship ended and devastated me. After a heartbreak like I went through, being single had a totally different connotation. To me, it meant loneliness, pain, heartache and sadness. I'm sure many of you are familiar.
So that brings me to "Single in Atlanta." It has been three years since my breakup with Bartender, and in that three years I've had an interesting single life. I've tried online dating - Match.com, PlentyOfFish.com, Tinder, Grouper, HowAboutWe, and more. I've met guys in bars and other public places and gone on dates with them. I've enjoyed being single at times and at others I haven't. This blog will serve as a medium for me to share my many dating experiences, dating tips and advice that I've personally learned, funny stories, horror stores, and more. The blog will hopefully make you think, make you feel, and help you understand things about the world from the single point of view. But most importantly, this blog serves to show you, fellow single guy or girl, that you are not alone. We are all in this together.
Now that you've read my shortened life's story, continue with me on this journey of being single. Posts will be from a female's eyes, but guys, I'm sure you can relate to. And hopefully soon I will have single male contributing writers to portray their stories, experiences and thoughts, as well. So, if you're Single in Atlanta, stay tuned!