You don’t know me but I know your gf (and bf sort of). it was a relief to know she was leaving MN but really creepy when we learned she was moving in with someone so young. she has always had deep control issues and i was really scared for you (i didn’t know your identity until recently and prodded around until i found some way to write to you here)… i’m sorry this happened to you and i hope you are safe wherever you are. all i can say is DO NOT GO BACK TO THEM. if they know any of your passwords (or if you kept any saved on a shared device) CHANGE THEM NOW! the abuse you documented is no joke and can really escalate when they feel like they lost control of a situation and you leaving may trigger that. you’re physically removed which is good!! don’t forget to remove yourself from their influence virtually too… please know that your well being is cared about, even anonymously!!!
Hi anon. I have a feeling I know who you are, as I've heard a lot from both my ex's history. Honestly, it's taken me quite a bit to feel comfortable talking about all this. So let me set some things straight.
1) I appreciate the support. I do. Knowing people still care means a lot.
2) don't talk badly about my exes. They have a lot they know about me and vice versa that without context makes us both look bad. I'm sure that because I just got out of the situation, I'm still seeing things through a rose colored tint, and as the years go by, I may become more open about the abuse I went through, but as of now, I am trying to believe the best in them, and in myself. Please don't spread hate to them or about them. The last thing I need is them dragging more attention to it.
3) if you know them personally, then whatever you do, do NOT update them on my situation. I will repeat.
If you know my exes personally, do not update them on my situation.
that means no streams, no moves, no purchases, anything. I'm trying to cut as clean and start over as best as I can, and I want to come out of his with as few scrapes from the broken pieces of my life as possible. That includes keeping myself from them.








