When you've gone too far.
Life is hard. Life is confusing and difficult, and its hard to know what to do and what not to do. I get it, I don't blame you. It's hard to decipher what to say in a situation and how to act depending. We all have things we don't like. Balloons, clowns, photos of us from middle school. All of these things can be scary to different people, and you need to know when to be assertive and when to be offended. People are sensitive, and thats okay. But it is not okay for them to make you feel like shit for your mistakes. It is not okay for them to ridicule and attack you for offering them a different approach to a situation. Do not let people bring you down for the things you like to do. (Unless its despicable or illegal, like killing people or kicking puppies.) If you like making balloon animals, do it. Just don't bring it into the home of someone who has globophobia. If you like snakes, get a snake. Just don't insist someone who is afraid of snakes hold it. Do not yell and accuse and patronize people who make mistakes, do not make them feel bad, and do not attack them. Instead, express to them your issue calmly, and if they're the type to actually try for your sake, they will. But you bringing someone down because of something they did without properly explaining it to them makes you just as bad as someone who triggers you on purpose. Everybody has feelings, and just because you have triggers and sensitivities doesn't mean you can demean someone for doing something that triggers you on accident. They can't read you mind, they aren't a damn Jedi, so don't act like its only their fault. You have a role to play in the act of ensuring your mental stability, and that is educating kindly. Without you, the act is incomplete and painful to experience, so let's remedy that, shall we? But there are times where you're allowed to cuss, to yell, to scream. When someone specifically goes out of their way to trigger you, to make you feel bad despite your best intentions, you tell them to fuck off. You tell them that you hope they are sad in life, that their sock falls down in their shoes, and that rocks forever plague the bottoms of their feet. But then, only then, are you allowed to yell. If you have educated, you have reminded them time and time again, and they make no effort to refrain from your trigger, thats when you yell. Thank you for your time, and remember: Tolerate and educate, reiterate and dont berate.
