Okay, so some people got a bit uppity with me and tried pulling the; "WeLl iN tHe COMICS-" bullshit about how Despair is portrayed in said comics and how her character "is actually fatphobic" because it "reinforces the stereotype that depressed people let themselves go-"
I just have one thing to say.
It seems you guys are the ones who don't know the comics well enough to know that the Despair we predominantly see in said comics? She isn't the first incarnation for Despair of the Endless. Despair, in her original form, before meeting an undescribed demise (heavily implied to be murder), was just as confident, self assured and captivating as Desire. Hell, she orchestrated the destruction of KRYPTON with EASE for crying out loud. Commandeered it without hesitation and reaped what she'd sown with gusto.
And guess what? Guess what is explicitly stated and shown when discussing her former self? SHE LOOKED EXACTLY THE SAME AS SHE CURRENTLY DOES NOW. THE ONLY REAL DIFFERENCE TO HER PHYSICALLY IS THE FACT THAT SHE IS NOW MONOCHROMATIC, SLIGHTLY SHORTER AND SHE DOESN'T HAVE THE BRIGHT RED TATTOOS THAT SHE FORMERLY HAD. THE ONLY SIGNIFICANT CHANGE OF WHO SHE IS AFTER HER FIRST DEMISE IS HER PERSONALITY AND THAT IS MORE THAN LIKELY A SIDE EFFECT OF THE TRAUMA BROUGHT ON BY HER MURDER.
So, in summary, I personally feel that Despair is meant to be an analogy for what a traumatic experience can do to a person. How it can change them and cause them to withdraw/change. And we do see that physically with her becoming dark and gray, losing her striking tattoos etc. But those are the only changes we see. Nothing else about her is a drastic change, there are no big shocks to any characters (particularly her family) that she looks the way she does and neither is it made out to be a bad thing. There are no doubts of her ability, her strength, no instances of the others viewing her as a burden for the way she looks or treating her with kiddy gloves.They just see her as a fully realised and capable member of their family.
And frankly, those making it all about fatphobia are truly taking away from the complexity and duality of who Despair is as a member of the Endless, the power she innately wields and as a character.