we want to make an effort (again) to be more... well we don’t even know how to say it so that’s one thing on our to do list lmao. But just, be us as a group/system of individuals and not one “plural blob”, y’know?
Sign every single message and post and email with the name of the system mate(s) who wrote it (unless they don’t want to), EVEN IF it means signing with “idk who”.
Reminding ppl to ask us who they’re talking to.
When ppl ask whether they should adress us in plural or singular, answer with “best to ask every time who fronts and if we’re spending a long time together, ask every now and then, esp when you notice a change in behaviour”
that kind of thing. It’s really difficult for us, but it’s probably also really important. We want to overcome this constant blurriness, the front-stuckiness, the depersonalisation, the not-letting-others-front! It’s really, really getting to us and this isn’t healthy or good for us, we need to allow ourselves to be all of us and each of us.
…stop singletting ourselves or letting others singlet us. That’s the phrasing we were looking for ^^”
And we’ll have to work on overcoming old rules and triggers and fears to do this, I expect a lot of that to come up, but that’s ok, we can reassure system mates who are scared.
- some main fronter (almost shortened this to mf but that would be weird lol)
