#basic shit

[mindinthevoid]

She loves the simple things, like:

– A voice message filled with love

– 4+ new messages because one isn’t enough

– That “Typing…” bubble that means someone cares

– The random “I was thinking about you”

– A soft “Come here, I miss you”

[twilight-good-yall-dumb]

I feel like the thing about feminism that people need to understand is that as a woman it's okay to see another woman doing something that you feel uncomfortable with or feel is bad for women as a whole and say, "hey, i don't like this. she's not setting a good example" WITH the understanding that she should still absolutely have the freedom to do that thing (assuming it isn't outright heinous) and be protected and valued as a human being. I don't always agree with every woman's takes or behaviors but I am never going to insist that she deserves "what comes to her" or talk about her as if she is not a human being with free and independent will. Feminism means women get to make choices for themselves. And sometimes women are going to make backwards or questionable choices because women are human beings. But we have to respect and defend our right to make bad decisions without severe condemnation or else someday we might lose the freedom to even have these conversations.

[transgp]

yes yes, how they act around wait staff is important but if they dont smile and say goodbye to the coffeeshop security guards its the biggest ick

[pumpkinsforsale]

I don't know who needs to hear this but you need to train your dog in everything, including but not limited to

- walks. Yes, train your dog how to walk good it will make your life so much easier.

- patience. They shouldn't be all over you as you get their dinner ready

- social behavior. You need to socialize your dog as much as possible. If you've only ever lived with your family and some stranger comes in, you would probably be alarmed too. Socializing includes with other dogs as well, your dog needs dog friends, I know that sounds weird but its true, look into dog parks, or friends/family with dogs.

- aggression. This one is pretty obvious, don't allow anything rough to slide. If they do something that causes pain, even just a little bit, make a high pitched yelp noise.

General tips

-Don't yell at your dog

-Don't hurt your dog intentionally in any way. I'm serious here, all that does is lower trust and potentially escalate aggression. SHOCK COLLARS ARE INCLUDED IN THIS

-Do encourage good behavior. Training treats! Kind words and pats, they understand simple gestures like these, but mostly treats

-Be consistent! If yesterday the dog was tearing up a pillow and you yelled at them, don't let them get away with it today. Use the same commands (example, saying "paw" and then "shake" and expecting them to know they're the same thing)

-Teach them the word no. This plays into a lot of the other tips. When your dog does something bad, say no and squirt them with a spray bottle of water. The response has to be as fast as possible. If there isn't a spray bottle nearby, just say 'no' and try to have it ready for next time, don't go and get it the dog will be super confused on why they're getting sprayed a minute later

-They're a living being! Don't get mad if they don't do exactly what you want. Like if they don't want to cuddle right now don't force it on them!

-treat them with the basic decency of a human child, such as feeding them on time, listening when they are whining in pain, and for christ sake they need to live inside. If you can't keep your dog inside you should not get a dog.

These are the absolute basics, if you "don't have time" to teach your dog these. You don't have time to have a dog.

Tl;dr: do full research before getting a dog, talk to whoever you get them from (no puppy farms or stores, adopt from a shelter or an accredited breeder) understand a dog is an active, living being with their own thoughts and emotions. Research research research! Even if you've had dogs before, you can always learn something new!

[summercurial]

trying to find a way to ask aidan to lightly tease me the way i like without telling him *exactly* what i want to hear, which would ruin it

[creepy-bi-day]

Before I begin writing. I found a new thing in the kink community that’s kinda hot.

So it’s like. I mentioned it in the swimming with Cody thing.

Little hand gestures for a dom to use in public to tell their sub what to do.

Tapping your wrist to tell you to hurry.

Scratching their neck to tell you to stop.

Biting their lip to tell you to knock it off.

Tapping their wrist with one finger to say strike one.

[scribblescrabbledepartment]

i Need 2 order a new sketchbook im almost out of pages