lindira replied to your post “I was going to therapy because I am exceptionally negative person. My...”
Maybe instead of thinking of how things might be less bad (we only have to walk an hour today), try thinking of something you will really enjoy even if it's small? Like "I'm wearing my favorite shirt today" or "I get to see something new today".
beautifulmidnight replied to your post “I was going to therapy because I am exceptionally negative person. My...”
Being told to 'stay positive' doesn't really help. Rather than focus on 'we only have to walk for an hour today' which is internal, focus on the external, 'the sun makes the water look pretty today'...it's more distracting than you think. *hugs*
This is just a really difficult concept to wrap my head around. I'm the type of person who wants to be comfortable when I'm enjoying things. For instance, I'll use the restroom before I eat so I can enjoy my food without my body nagging me to relieve myself. Or emotionally, I will create daily goals for myself so when I finish them I can relax easily knowing that I am where I need to be. I'm not relaxed in any way right now. And I do this thing where when things don't go as I had planned for them to go (how they were planned, not just what I wanted to be planned), I get SO angry and I stew in my own negativity
Last semester I had a professor that did nothing but spew negative energy at us and it was truly awful. Every day, for hours, he just crammed this shit down our throats. I struggled and pushed and held my head high the whole time but when I look back on that experience, I truly think that I was warped by it. I refuse to believe that I was always this bad. Always negative, yeah, but never like this. I don't want to point the finger and deny any responsibility for my emotional state, but I worked harder than I've ever worked before and I really believe I changed more over the course of that one semester than I have ever before.
I don't know where to go from here. You're right, simply being told to stay positive isn't helping. It's also extremely difficult for me to enjoy the little things in life. And I'm driving away my friends with my attitude. I feel like the six sessions of therapy I had didn't do much for me. jsdlkfjslf