Parents, grandparents, and child care providers are invited to several free parent workshops. Conscious Discipline focuses on social-emotional learning and is part of the research-based Conscious Discipline program developed by Dr. Becky Bailey. Child care will be available and light refreshments will be provided with advanced registration.
This is a WONDERFUL resource for anyone looking to get more information on positive behavior management skills. Dr. Becky Bailey offers resources for parents, teachers, and professionals that allow then to use discipline to TEACH not to punish. Her methods help to connect the family and work within the principles of child brain development. The website has a lot of great resources whether you're a parent or just work with kids. I also love that her methods will work with almost any parenting style.
Hopefully you'll find this website useful. Very often hospitals or children's services offer free parenting classes that use her methods and resources which I *highly* recommend.
Make eye contact and get the joy juice! But not too long, if you make eye contact for too long you will either fight or have sex. And we’ll have none of that!
To be nice you must have empathy.
Empathy = morality
COW greeting
SKUNK greeting
4 year olds intrude on each other 5 times per hour!
1 conflict every minute in a preschool
1st = 50%
2nd = 60%
3rd = 73%
biggest reason= incompatibility
we have learned to negate the moment. We think if we negate the moment it will change.
Where SHOULD you be?
We SHOULD be out of the house by now?
Where SHOULD the ball be?
Yet – it’s on the floor!
Instead of demanding how things SHOULD be, we need to accept how it is.
OH SHIFT!
Upset comes from resisting what is!
Demanding how it should be --(SHIFT) -- Accepting how it is & solving the problem!
Empathy is impossible without safety and composure (self regulation)
Prefrontal lobe = CEO (forehead)
Who ever said, “When I have kids I’ll never (blank) them. Yet we all did.”
You want to kill them. But you can’t. You are a professional.
SMILE
Give it a go – even if you aren’t happy, it will change your inner state.
I’m safe
Keep breathing
I can handle this
This allows me to access my empathy – so I don’t eat them.
Soften your eyes
Open your heart
Our pupils dilate and in the animal world it means you aren’t going to eat them.
Soften your eyes.
MIRROR NURONS
When you see something on their face, you can feel it.
Mirror neurons work better when you care about people.
It’s not about HAPPY IT UP it’s about organizing it.
Your arms are like ________________ and your head is like this _____________________
As soon as they look you BREATHE and SMILE
SHIFT from control to connecting
Connections on the outside create connections on the inside.
These connections wire the brain for impulse control and willingness
Connections consist of 4 things:
eye contact
touch
presence
playful situation
when I am in the lower center of my brain I WANT THE MARKER! I need a road to get to the higher areas…. The ROAD is made of connections! Giving a sticker doesn’t make the road.
Connections ARE NOT attention!
If attention was connection Lyndsay Lohan would be OK.
Kids come to us without having had enough connections
46% alert awake time play needs to be face to face with an adult
depressed mother can give 10%
how much face to face happening in the infant room?
More FACE TIME to access empathy
Accept what IS and not what SHOULD
Be a STAR and not a NUT – download YOU to them, not them to you
