I don't know if I'm being the asshole here but I'm having a lot of issues with poly things and also issues with a partner who has chronic illness
My partner has a new partner who is a really close friend of mine, which is absolutely fine, but there have been a lot of things that have been fucking me up recently. They have been very intimate and touchy feely, which would be completely fine, but I have been receiving 0 intimacy and 0 physical touch from them for a while, and they have been saying that it's because they aren't in a very touchy feely or lovey mood recently in general, which again would be fine and completely fair and understandable if they weren't being incredibly intimate and lovey with their new partner.
They've also been having a lot of issues with chronic pain recently, which I do my best to accommodate and help out where I can, but I currently have a broken arm that's in a lot of pain, and my ADHD makes it really hard for me to start a lot of tasks and even harder to complete them when I've started, and they just get pissed off and shitty with me. It really feels like they have no respect for my own medical issues when they are also having issues, and like my problems don't actually exist and I can just power through them whilst that would be (understandably) impossible for them. Like come on we both have issues that we are both aware of, you can be frustrated but understand that people will also be frustrated with you for the same things.
Idk all of this is really just feeling like they don't care for me or care about me at all, and the only thing I'm there for is to keep them safe and busy so they don't ruminate for too long. At the same time, it is to the point where I am given no time to do the things I want to do or need to do to keep myself safe, and if I even suggest that I need to prioritise myself and they need to find a way outside of me to cope, that's me being a dick and not understanding their issues.
I just feel very unloved and lonely at the moment because of it.