You know what? I‘m still kinda salty that we didn‘t get the serve that Lizzie/Alyssa would have been. Would they have been healthy? No. Would I have been severely entertained? Yes.
💀 Never has a truer word been spoken, these two would be so unhealthy for each other but it would be so entertaining to watch.
5, 10 and 13 for both? Also, I hope it'll be over for you soon (your time of the month, I mean:/)
Thank you! ^^ And me too fkkd
Shirou
5. When you first started crushing on them, what qualities of theirs stood out to you? Was it their smile? Their eyes? Their way with words? Anything else? How about vice versa? (It can be any trait. Personality, appearance, etc.)
So, one of the first things I notice about a person is their voice (if they're talking, that is) so I suppose it was that? I could recognize his voice as soon as I heard it
Eyes are also like the immediate first thing I notice! So his eyes definitely stood out like,, they're so pretty,,,
10. Before dating, were you guys friends? Enemies? Anything else?
First strangers, then friends! :)
13. Are either of you good at hiding you feelings, or are you very obvious about them?
He's very good!!!
I, on the other hand, suck
I swear it's gonna be the end of me one day ;;;
Michiru
5. When you first started crushing on them, what qualities of theirs stood out to you? Was it their smile? Their eyes? Their way with words? Anything else? How about vice versa? (It can be any trait. Personality, appearance, etc.)
Her hair, tail, and markings probably???
I can't explain why bc idk but yeah
10. Before dating, were you guys friends? Enemies? Anything else?
Childhood friends! I grew up with her! (jdbfjf with her, my s/i is gonna have the same powers as her 👉👈)
13. Are either of you good at hiding you feelings, or are you very obvious about them?
It kinda seem obvious but it isn't really yk??
Like anyone who doesn't know us is like wait are they dating? But with is it's just how our friendship is, so it really depends on your perspective!
Our (or Nazuna's) pov: nah, this is normal!
Others pov: yeah they're either crushing or dating
Since I have some young followers and some who have never dated before, I decided to put together a list of questions to ask your date before you choose to invest your time in possibly dating them. This will save you a lot of time and pain in the future.
Asking these questions will give you insight about the person, whether they have the same values and intentions as you, and gauge whether they are self aware of themselves, has a good character, and work with you as a potential partner.
When asking these questions, make sure that you are clear about what you want and have an answer to the questions as well.
1) What are your intentions for the relationship?
First be clear about what your intentions for a relationship is. If you are looking for a committed relationship, voice that. If the guy is looking for Friends with Benefit, Casual, Friends only then take his word and stop investing further hoping he will change his mind - most of the time, they will not and if things turn sour, they will only blame you for being foolish.
2) What are your goals/expectations for the relationship?
Be clear about your goals and expectations. Tell them the non-negotiating terms for the relationship. Examples are having mutual respect, trust, having space/time to yourself, being able to hang out with friends when you want to, have a stable job, have strong communication skills, no games, no passive aggressive behavior, etc...
3) What are you willing to offer/give into the relationship and what are you unable to do?
A relationship needs to be on equal footing and both people involved needs to be investing into the relationship instead of taking away. You need to see whether this person can add happiness to your life instead of causing you more stress and pain. You also need to figure out how you can give into the relationship as well.
4) What are you looking for in a partner?
Asking this question gives you clues about their past relationship experience. Let’s say they tell you they want someone who is responsible, independent, supportive, career oriented. You can guess about 98% of the time that their previous partner or someone they dated was not responsible, not independent, not supportive, and not career oriented. Before trying to fit into his mold of what his perfect partner is, you need to ask yourself if those are qualities you already have and can be negotiated. If not, then it’s best to let them know you are not what they are looking for.
5) How do you feel love and express love?
This goes back to the 5 languages of love. Everyone feel love and expresses love differently. So the 5 different ways are: Quality Time, Gift Giving, Physical Touch, Verbal Affirmation, and Act of Service. If you haven’t heard of them, familiar self with it and be able to let the other person know what yours are.
6) What are your dealbreakers?
Let them know what you can and cannot tolerate. Examples are: cheating, being rude and disrespectful towards you, any manipulative and hurtful behaviors, physical and emotional abuse.
7) How do you express your anger/frustration and sadness?
Not everyone express these emotions similarly so it’s important to take note of what they are aware of and ask yourself if their expression of anger and sadness is healthy. If they are aware that their expression of those emotions are not healthy, then are they doing anything to change that.
8) How do you want your partner to support you when you feel sad or angry?
Sometimes we don’t know how to be supportive or help our partner when they are feeling down or upset. Knowing what they want you to do will help ensure that their needs are met and that you know you are helping them in some way. Sometimes they might say: I need time alone for a few days, I would like you to come talk to me, etc...
9) What are signs I should know about you in which I should worry about?
These are good to know in emergency cases, like if that person is an energetic extrovert and then suddenly becomes withdrawn, you need to be observant and aware of the changes.
10) What are certain things I should know about you that have cause tension in your past relationships?
This question is another way of addressing what went wrong in your previous relationships that I should be concern about. Answering this question, you can have a feel about a person’s character, their pattern, self awareness, and how they will see and treat you if the relationship has moments of tension.
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Hopefully, you find this helpful. If you ever go on the first date with someone, take the time to fully be present in the conversation instead of being mesmerized by their charm and good looks. Take note of not only what they say, but how they say it and their body language. Go with your gut feeling and be confident in yourself.
I have went on various dates and with each, I take note of our connection, how real they are to themselves, how comfortable and honest they are in talking to me, how they describe their exes, but overall I had to come to possible conclusion of whether this person had a good character or not.
And the thing is, judging a person’s character takes good observation skills. Anyone can be able to practice, be coached, and memorize what to say and do to make you like them, but a person’s character will most likely stay the same unless they did major self reflection. So how do one judge a person’s character? You take note of how they behave with their friends, their family, coworkers, and people in service. Do they make certain comments, do they keep promises, do they show gratitude?
That’s why when my current bf asked me how do I know he has a good character or not? I told him, I don’t and that it requires constant monitoring and consistency in order to come to that conclusion. Overall, he has not done anything in which I am too overly concern about.
Last but not least, here’s an example of how to be clear about what you want:
“I’m open to starting a relationship with you. What I want is a committed relationship that has potential to be serious in terms of possible marriage. Goals for the relationship are to respect each other, be honest and supportive, value each other’s decisions/opinions, trust each other to be emotionally strong enough to handle the truth, clearly communicate your needs, wants, and insecurities. Be open to changes, continue to love, desire, and be interested in each other lives as well as invest time for self improvement with sense of individuality and self responsibility.”
Before dating, Steve regularly drew Natasha when she wasn't looking. Natasha knows of this and doesn't mention it to Steve, she thinks that Steve should be able to keep his own secret, even though Natasha knows almost everything about him.
