Should I have told my friend I’m into her if she has a boyfriend now? posted by u/burneraccount5555555
Burner account because this is kind of embarrassing. I (17M) moved to a new town because my mom got remarried and my only friend for a while was my stepbrother. Who is awesome but I was really excited when I made a new friend (18F) at school who was really into astrology and musical theatre like I am. That’s not really the important part but basically we have a lot of the same interests and spent a lot of time together especially b/c we got cast in a play together and a lot of other people in the cast were really rude. So we got really close really quickly.
Anyway, she was telling me how she didn’t think anyone was gonna ask her to prom, which sounded to *me* like she was dropping hints because maybe she liked me, so I asked her with a really big, planned-out spectacle. I won’t go into detail because, hello, anonymity, but it was really good. I’m still proud of it. And then she kissed me.
So I had always thought I maybe had feelings for her, but after this it became a little more obvious. I didn’t want to make things weird, though, so I didn’t tell her, and I figured that if she was into me we would talk about it at prom. We didn’t. Prom actually went horribly, I got pushed into a punch bowl by an unrelated person and then this guy, we’ll call him “Luke”, was saying all this aggravating stuff to me and then he and my date disappeared off together and basically by the next day they were dating.
That made my friendship with my date super weird and TBH I didn’t realize she was dating “Luke” until like a week later because, you know, benefit of the doubt. If I may add also “Luke” is a complete jerk and so wrong for her. Anyway we talked about it eventually but she obviously was way more into him despite all the RED FLAGS. So I’m starting to wonder maybe I should have made my feelings known sooner? Would that even have helped? Like girls especially please I would appreciate the perspective do you think she *was* into me but then thought I wasn’t and moved on? Or was I reading into things too much from the start? Please help I’m losing it. Also this is a side note but I had a weird af dream about her where we were vampires idk if this will help if there are any dream interpreters here.
Edit: If this is helpful in any way, she is a Cancer and I am a Virgo. Leo cusp though. Thank you.
Edit: No, he really is a jerk I am not exaggerating please stop saying I might just be jealous I am looking for practical advice here not a psychoanalysis
