#beroyal

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Quit waiting for a better life to show-up. A better life, is waiting for you to show-up. — Bryant McGill

[bryantmcgill]

To live a wonderful life create more, buy less, hug more, scold less, give more, take less, forgive more, worry less and be grateful everyday for life. — Bryant McGill

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Civil disagreement takes guts, while trashing someone is the act of a coward. — Bryant McGill

[bryantmcgill]

It is only when you learn to listen, that you will finally be heard. When you are waiting for them to one-day hear you, or listen, you are giving them the power. Your self-imposed limitation, is that for you to move forward, they must listen, and meet your demands. This is not true. Listening brings awareness, knowledge, and power. Don't try to make them listen; instead, you listen. Listening is the supreme form of domination. There is no comeback to listening. The more you listen, the more you have power over them. Only people who don't know how to listen, have to walk around on eggshells. — Bryant McGill

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Whatever you do — don't wait to forgive someone until they apologize, ask for your forgiveness or even acknowledge they have harmed you. If you are waiting for someone to acknowledge they hurt you, you could be waiting forever and it puts them in the power position, where you need something from them in order to move forward in your life. Closure is an act of sanity you bring to the table of your own healing, it is not a handout your abuser holds over you that you need. You have the power within yourself to find closure and healing, but not through bitterness, wrath and smoldering resentment. Forgiveness originates with self-love. Forgiveness is always and absolutely for you. Forgiveness has nothing whatsoever to do with how wrong someone else was; no matter how evil, cruel, narcissistic or unrepentant they are. When you forgive a person, you break the ties with their ill deeds that keep you in anguish. Forgiving breaks the unhealthy bonds between you and your abuser-victim relationship, and redefines you as an independent victor in your own life. Forgiving cuts the cord — freeing you — and leaves the abuser with the full weight of their deeds and fate, and whether they accept their responsibility or not, you are no longer dependent on their participation for your healing. You can hold no malice; you can forgive them, and you can then move on. Boundaries are an essential part of forgiveness. — Bryant McGill

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Be calm and create a clear, safe space in your mind. Just because your world is falling apart doesn't mean you have to fall apart. When everything seems crazy, you be calm. Don't let the outer chaos you are facing get inside of you. All healing starts with beginning to accept yourself and love yourself; even your flaws. Real love is opening your heart to the unlovable. Real gratitude is giving thanks when things aren't perfect. Real generosity is sharing when you have very little. Real courage makes the 'impossible' — possible, with real faith. So love yourself. Have gratitude now. Be generous and good to yourself. Have faith and quieten the voices of worry and discontent in your mind. Stop your worrying, panicking and stressing. Breathe. Remember, you made it this far through difficulties that seemed impossible. Remember how many times you were saved at the very last minute — this time is no different. Always strive for calm, that's where your ultimate safety resides. — Bryant McGill

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Most happiness in a meaningful sense, is the absence of being cruel to oneself. — Bryant McGill

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Persistence is the most traveled path to success. — Bryant McGill