AIO that my BF is comforting my bestf during her period but shaming me when i have mine?
20f and have been in a relationship with my high school boyfriend, we’ve known each other since high school and have been dating since we were 18. I’ve always had very bad cramps, haven’t had the smoothest period. Mood swings, fatigue, a lot of bleeding and you know the rest. I dont really talk about how i feel to him dont know why, regardless of it giving me a hard time id just always tell him “im on period and i dont feel” and thats how he’d leave it to me.
My bestf and her partner were hanging out with my boyf and I, she mentions how terrible her symptoms were and my boyf went off charts. He started with getting her dessert, offering his hoodie to her (ig her boyfriend couldve done that but wtv) he really pampered her so much, was so concerned for her, offering her to buy meds or pads and what not. I wasn’t really insecure about it though shocked but just figured that i had never really ranted to him about my problems and assumed of it as that he just will be very careful of the women around him and would want to make them feel their best.
Fast forward when i get my period, i tell him how shit i feel and how i highkey expected him to give me a good princess treatment. it was appalling that he then became completely disgusted, and was like keep this to yourself why tell him now if i’ve already been dealing w it by myself since long. I don’t know how to feel about it. He said it’s very not likely if me to rant to him and he just got very awkward and grossed out, In the sheer moment i acted out and told him that i’d want to take a break from him because i didn’t appreciate it.
Counters me with, if i also wanted the same treatment as my bestf got from him i should have just told him inseatd of calling it a break, AIO?
Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (98% confidence)
Top comment: “Sounds like they care more about coming across like a good dude to other people than actually being a good partner to you. NOR”
Notable comment: “NOR. He’s a misogynist. His reaction to you reveals the real feelings beneath the temporary act put on for your friend. You are both better off without him. The way he responded to you is unacceptable.
Frankly, the way he responded to your friend was over the top and cringe-inducing. He’s attracted to her and thinks this treatment will endear him to her, but in a man who isn’t your partner, it’s bizarre.
Hopefully, she sees through that performance and you preserve your friendship with one another. If she began dating him, I suspect he would quickly show his true colors and revert to form.
Don’t have a child with a man who reacts this way to your normal, healthy body doing normal, healthy things. Some men loathe and fear our bodies, even while desiring sex with us, even after we give them children with those bodies. Such men are dangerous and will diminish rather than strengthen you.”
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Originally shared by Imsweetcaroline on r/AmIOverreacting on June 24th, 2026 at 7:52 PM UTC. Credit to u/Due-Counter134 and u/No-Birthday9816 for the quoted comments.
