#bi!dan

[illoura]

Actor!Dan and Uni!Phil AU from In My Way by @ineverhadmyinternetphase. It was such a cute fic and deserves more love!

Sorry for the bad lighting D:

[phanfic]

Summary: It’s Wednesday and Dan’s going home in two days. Whenever he thinks about it, a familiar queasy feeling takes up residence in his stomach. It’s not that he doesn’t want to go home, because he does. He can’t wait to see his brother and the family dog again. But then there are also his parents and that’s where the problem lies. Word count: 1,365 Genre: fluffyangst (it’s not that angsty but also not completely fluffy) Warnings: self-confidence issues, negative depiction of parent-child relationship Extra tags: bi!Dan

[breathlester]

here’s the thing, okay. i absolutely understand if you’d rather not label dan, if you’re doing it out of respect. that's 100% fine. dan has called himself bi before. yes, that was years ago, but we have no evidence to assume that he rejects that label now. It’s possible he doesn’t presently label himself. it’s possible he’s changed labels. but we can’t know that unless he says so. and I’m mostly certain he never will, because dan likes his privacy. but you know how he says he sees everything we talk about? so as long as he doesn’t say that he doesn’t want us to assume his sexuality, I’m going to suppose he’s fine with that, especially with how many clues he’s giving away (in tweets, videos, liveshows, etc.). i don’t see any signs of dan being heterosexual. if you do, fine. that’s your opinion. but this is mine, and I’m not going to be made to feel guilty for that. calling dan bi isn’t an accuse or an insult. if you feel like it is, you’re the problem.

[breathlester]

if the thought of dan being bi offends you, please get off my blog, and also i hope you eat a tarantula in your sleep tonight :))

[breathlester]

when you say “we can’t know dan’s sexuality until he explicitly tells us” you might mean well, but here’s the thing:

1) dan has publicly referred to himself as bisexual before, before he became internet famous 2) dan is openly talking about his attraction to various genders at the moment, he’s making a conscious effort 3) dan is a very private person who obviously does not want to make his sexuality (or relationship) a big deal 4) dan does not seem to want to make a coming out video and you refusing to accept his clues isn’t helping 5) you’re acting like a sexuality is only valid once a person has come out, which isn’t true? 6) you’re also acting like assuming someone’s bisexual is slander, which is just hurtful and rude towards bisexuals 7) you’re supporting the stupid and toxic “straight until proven otherwise” mentality

it’s fine not to want to label dan, but it’s not okay to be rude to people who conclude from his consciously given hints. can we move on now?

[softiejace]

idk about you but as someone who shows their attraction to people of different genders only barely as openly as dan howell does, i would be highly offended if people didn't take the hint. because that ignorance would force me to make a statement at some point, and maybe i just don't want to make a big fucking deal out of coming out? maybe i don't need to label myself again and again until everyone has seen it? maybe this is my way of subtly opening up to you guys? have you considered that?

[softiejace]

so many people are getting mad at us for “assuming” dan’s sexuality and i just wanna say one thing first before diving into matters: i don’t support anyone publicly (e.g. by an @ tweet) outing dan or trying to force dan to come out. that’s a big no-no and i shouldn’t have to explain why. - ok, moving on. dan has never labelled himself as gay or straight, but has called himself bi on different internet platforms before. you might not have known and that’s okay, but it’s a fact, although he’s deleted the posts long ago. but even regardless of that, for a while now he’s been openly expressing his attraction to people of different genders. and that makes him bisexual (or poly/pan, if you like). it’s not a scandalous assumption, it’s common sense and it shouldn’t be considered a slander. especially the phandom with its many lgbtqia members should not be a place for such vehement bisexual erasure. that’s all i have to say about this.

[stardustbxbe]

what do you think about dans sexuality and how people are getting annoyed with people saying "dans bi"

Honestly, i dont wanna start shit here but i have been just laughing at all the “i had to unfollow so many people because they were saying hes bi” for a few reasons. 1. people are welcome to opinions. the whole mystery of phan’s sexualities is a huge part of their shtick. the possibility of Bi Dan is appealing to a lot of people, and thats alright. Some people ship phan, some dont, and in the same vein; some people can think dan may be bi and some may not.2. MAYBE LETS LOOK AT WHY SO MANY PEOPLE WANT BI DAN FOR A SECOND. H O W. many mainstream personalities are bisexual. I count shane dawson, halsey …. ….. …. got anymore? yeah. bisexuality is disgustingly underrepresented in our society and the prospect of a well known celebrity being bisexual would be absolutely AMAZING. As a bi girl myself, i would love nothing more than to have that kind of connection to my idol. 

Maybe I’m stretching it a bit here, but i also find the idea that people are freaking out because some people are saying “dan is so bi!” a lil biphobic. People would say “dan/phil is so gay” “look at these two homos” “they are so married” and there was hardly any issue, but the second its “hey …. maybe hes bi!” its immediately blasted with “DONT LABEL HIM.” “HE CAN APPRECIATE LOOKS OF BOYS WITHOUT BEING BISEXUAL.” like, yes, you are right! but why are you not reacting the same way when people speculate potential homosexuality, only getting upset when bisexuality is proposed? Why are too many people SO against Bi Dan? Why. It really exposes how biphobia is so ingrained in our culture, and while its interesting to view, it also feels like a personal attack at the same time.