#bi spaces

[bi-sapphics]

[bi-sapphics]

honestly half of this “lesbians vs. bi women” discourse wouldn’t even exist if y’all could comprehend that material reality exists and what it actually means. you’ve all become so chronically online that you think we have completely separate experiences that can never ever overlap, and if they somehow do, then it’s not enough to mean anything. you think there’s this solid line between black and white with no grey in the middle and that’s just not so.

some lesbians mistakenly think they’re attracted to men via comphet, y’all seem to grasp the validity of that concept well enough. bi women can falsely think they’re lesbians, also because of comphet, which y’all seem to take issue with for some reason. bi women experience homophobia in addition to biphobia, just like how lesbians experience lesbophobia specifically in addition to general homophobia. bi women get called dykes - in other words, if you want to use your own argument against us reclaiming it, bi women experience what you want to call lesbophobia (maybe rethink your argument if that makes you mad lol). bi women participated in dyke marches and lesbian feminism (and still do). bi women use butch/femme and sometimes even futch and nobody irl actually cares (we do see it as more than just an aesthetic, btw). bi women get called and are sometimes considered lesbians (not to endorse mspec lesbians, but we do actually have knowledgeable experience in that field). it’s not just bisexuals who are always feminine and lesbians who are or can be masculine. also, some lesbians prefer to call their attraction to certain nonbinary genders bisexual and that preference is perfectly okay.

there is so much more overlap between us than often gets recognized, whether because y’all are too caught up in the discourse to realize it or because you just don’t want to admit it so that your biphobic & bimisogynistic narrative can continue to make sense for you. obviously i would say it hurts us bi sapphics the most, but lesbians are really selling themselves short too just because some of them don’t want to be associated with us just by embracing their full history, culture, and dynamic.

it’s not that we’re suddenly taking things away from lesbians by acknowledging what we’re actually entitled to as bisexuals, it’s that we’ve always been entitled to these things and your “lesbian-exclusive” cultures never actually were lesbian-exclusive. so i understand why it feels like something’s being taken away from you, but it never really was only yours to begin with and your insistence just makes you look selfish for no good reason. to put it bluntly, “lesbian-exclusive” and “bi-exclusive” aren’t real existing categories (except... y’know... different flags and the double moons symbol. but that’s kind of it). that’s not how material reality works. that’s a concept that is, ironically, exclusively online. you have to realize that “lesbian” and “bisexual” were never supposed to be separated in the first place. there’s no problem with appreciating that lesbian does have its own closed-off definition now, and that’s valid, but it’s just an unobjectionable fact that this isn’t how it was supposed to be without radfems intervening. lesbian separatism didn’t happen with the consent of bisexuals and that’s just a lie you’ve been told. sorry about that.

[princess-of-the-bi-people]

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