What being Mollis means to me
Following the suggestion of Anibelle viragoposting's recent post about Mollis/Molli defining ourselves as an individual identity, I thought it might be fun to go a bit into what the concept of being Mollis means to me personally! I have a lot more thoughts and feelings about it overall that I'll probably share over time, but this post is meant to define my sort of core philosophy regarding this identity.
This is of course in no way meant as any kind of definitive "THIS IS WHAT IT HAS TO BE" post or anything silly like that. The label we choose might be the same but all our experiences are different and I am in no way trying to detract from anyone else's interpretation of the identity, this is just what I feel personally. If any other Mollis men want to make a similar post, please do! I would be so curious to hear what others have to say about it!
With all that being said, for me being a Mollis is about defiance as the ultimate form of acceptance.
All of my life I have been told that a distinction which means nothing to me is a defining aspect of how I am meant to live. "Men do this, women do that. You have to play along, that's the way things are. That's the way things are." But no matter how often it was said, no matter how certain the people saying it were, I always saw evidence to the contrary. Women being smart, funny, capable; men being kind, shy, scared. More often than not the people doing these things never even noticed the contradiction, but I always did, because they were proof that this lie had been forced upon us.
And as I grew and the world changed, more and more cracks formed in the lie; scientific study after scientific study proved how little difference there really was between the stereotypical definitions of "men" and "women," sociology and gender studies broke down more and more of these artificial barriers in our heads, trans, non-binary, intersex, and so many other voices were starting to be heard and showing collectively beyond a shadow of a doubt that the human body is just a body, identity is what we choose, and that "the way things are" has only ever been something we made the fuck up.
So I choose to be soft, and kind, and compassionate. To find joy in beauty, fulfillment in expression, and playfulness in attraction. To admire strength, and wit, and willpower in those who have it, not those who demand it. To long for love, and share it in return.
If these things are labelled feminine, then I choose to accept that label with my whole heart, and perform it with joy.
I choose to embody these things because that is who I am, not what the world tried to force upon me, and who I am is the only self I will accept.
