#bigender stuff

[spookthelilguy]

Why can I breath easier in binder than regular bra wthhh

[dat2ndaccount97]

My Bigender ass shaving my facial hair off weekly but still getting annoyed at the shadow that's still there meaning i'll never be truly clean shaven.

[drewthevoid]

Test: Male or Female?

Me: *Writes "Yes"*

[nerdprincealec]

I'm sorry if this is a touchy subject, and I don't know you very well. But you seem like a v sweet person so I figured that perhaps it couldn't hurt to ask. Do you have any advice on coming out as Bigender or anything?? I mean, I really want to myself, and I know my mother is v accepting and all but fuck am I terrified of doing that and afraid people won't take me seriously and I just don't know what to do???? And I'm sorry if I'm being a bother.

Nah it’s okay. i havent actually come out to my parents tbh ((im pretty sure my mom knows about the boy part but doesnt want to confirm it/ she thinks its full on trans boy but idk fully)) , they have some transphobic views, and while i dont think they personally would do anything im scared of what my extended family would do considering they are hardcore christian and freaked out just because i dyed my hair black one time and went trick or treating instead of going to christian candle light shit. 

But tbh ive thought about it a lot and its probably a lot harder to come out as bigender. Its not very knowledgable to the majority of cis people so like you think it probably wont be taken seriously by someone who isnt open minded about it ((It sucks but thems the truth sadly)). I know one of the people on here i talked to about it thought i was brainwashed and that i needed to “wise up and pick a side”. So i would mostly just be prepared for the lack of seriousness people are going to have and counter it with serious attitude, maturity and serious posture. Theres a few things you can do tho to try and get your point across if you mother is pretty accepting. I made a lil speech incase i needed to ever reveal myself. I researched what i could and wrote down my personal feelings before hand so i could hold some confidence that i was serious. I planned on discussing my pronouns once i moved out but they’re always something nice to mention. Talk about what youre feeling, talk to them one on one, explain your discomfort, where you are now, what genders you know you are. If you’re hit with a laugh or a “you’re being silly” kind of stuff just calmly explain you arent joking. gotta keep that calm attitude cause you know parents for some reason just dont get that youre being serious??? when you are?? idk. Uh could also plan on how and when you’re gonna do it, a deadline gives you motivation. Make sure your parent is in a good mood before hand just incase your parent takes it more emotional negative, at least they wont be at the bottom of the negativity pool. Be sure to care for yourself too, if you panic before hand do some breathing exercises before you start the discussion.  I tend to have days where i lean a bit to a dominant half if you have that i would explain that too. Basically explain everything about bigender to them because 9/10 they dont know or understand what it is or how you can feel two genders at the same time. 

If you havent told trusted friends, i would honestly go for  trusted friends first as a test run. Friends seem to be least likely to care what you are tbh. Like im 90% sure none of my friends care, sometimes people struggle with the whole pronouns thing ((thats probably just me)) and trying to figure out the “alec/alora are the same person” thing but it’ll take a bit for peeps, especially parents cause theyve known you for forever as birth you. Or even test run your speech with a friend if they already know. It takes the stress off a lil bit. 

Thats all i can really say tho tbh I mean when i came out to friends it was kind of just like “oh nice okay what pronouns?” and yeah. So for a review fully, I would just research, form a plan, practice, set a date, check before hand, and keep as calm as you can be dude. This is the real you, make sure they know it. You got this.

[marxbakuninhomoeroticfanfiction]

I'm having a kind of dysphoric night. For those of you who read my post on Transgender Remembrance Day, I'm having a very Kayla night. It is extremely frustrating. I've found wearing colorful beaded bracelets helps express it a bit, but only a little. It's unsettling to only feel like yourself a little more than half of the time.

It really wouldn't be that big a change, mentally, if there weren't things here-and-there I'd like to do or say that I know tomorrow will require some explanation, or will compromise the masculinity of "Jake."

#bigender problems