#bisexual confession

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🏳️‍🌈💜🏳️‍🌈💜 to my bisexual brothers and sisters, singing without changing any pronouns of any song is a superpower 💜🏳️‍🌈💜🏳️‍🌈

AGREED

[biandaceconfessions]

I'm a guy and I'm very bi, but I'm also so damn far in the closet that I'm now in Narnia. I have a crush on this guy that works at the supermarket and I go buy random groceries there just to talk to him. I really want to ask him out but I have no way to know if he likes me, or if he likes guys in general. I don't have anyone to go to for advice because, as I've said, I'm in Narnia. So here I am.

Ok I’m not super great with advice but I’ll give it a shot!

It sounds like you haven’t hit on him much but that you’ve spent a lot of time around him. My best advice to you is just to subtly flirt with him. Compliment him. Smile at him. For real lots of smiling. Smiles go a long way.

As far as trying to find out if he’s into guys … I’m not 100% sure. If you find out you guys have stuff in common maybe invite him to hang out as friends first? Or get his number and just casually put some hints out there.

This isn’t the best advice I am totally aware. But I hope it’s a little helpful at least. Since you’re closeted (and I’m assuming you want to stay that way for the moment) all of these could also be seen as just being friendly in case he’s not interested in guys.

[biandaceconfessions]

So here's a happy confession. I just came out as bisexual to my friend online and she was completely supportive. This is the second time I've ever come out to anyone and the first time was an internet friend too. I'm so happy to have both of them in my life and I don't know where I'd be without them. It's just really nice to know that even tho my entire family and everyone I know irl is against anything lgbt that I have people who treat it as normal and still love me for it

Congratulations!! Coming out is a big deal, and I’m so happy to hear it went well! Even if your family isn’t there yet, it’s always good to have people who support you. And remember, you can include is in that as well :)

[biandaceconfessions]

Hi :) I’m bi and my best friend (of 12 years) is ace, I thought I’d had a crush on her for a while but I’m confused why/if I rly do. For some background info I have ptsd from SA so I either swing from hyper sexual to sex repulsed which would make things difficult. I’d recently decided I need a new start and have been applying for jobs in a new city and started dating again and I was fine with that. I’d miss her but it’s what I needed. Last night however, she messages me that she things we’d be good together and I was happy but I know logically we wouldn’t work (we have different lifestyles and want different futures) so I entertained the idea but kept it jokey. I haven’t told her about the the planned move and I was drunk at the time when she messaged me. She’s the person I love most in this world but I don’t know in what way - I don’t feel close to many people so I’m unsure whether I love her platonically or if I’m in love with her or I love how safe she makes me feel. I really don’t want to lose her so I have to tread carefully. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hey there nonnie! That's definitely a tough situation to be in. I know you don't want to lose her, but I think it might benefit you both to sit down and have a serious talk about things: both her message that she thinks the two of you would be good together, and your feelings on needing a new start.

I know that's a very difficult conversation to have and getting your fresh start and some distance might be what you need to better understand what feelings you have for her, but I think waiting until the last minute to tell her about your plans to move could feel like you're blindsiding her and cause more tension or a possible rift between the two of you.

Maybe to better understand what your feelings are, you could compare things to the other close relationships you have. Even if they aren't exactly the same, consider what similarities the relationships hold. If you have any ideas of what you would like to have from your friend that could help too. Do you just like having her there as a security measure and for comfort because you know she'll be a strong support pillar? Or do you want to go out on dates and maybe snuggle, kiss, or hold hands? Not that snuggling and holding hands is inherently romantic, but framing it in that way could help you gain some more perspective.

I hope this helps and good luck with everything!

[biandaceconfessions]

I am 26 years old. I just realized I am bisexual. I have been married to a man for 8 years. We have 2 children together. I have terrible anxiety/depression. Am I a horrible person for realizing that I i love my husband but am no longer in love with him? I need someone to talk to about this.

Hi, thank you for sharing with us. First off I want you to know that you are not a terrible person. Nothing about what you said makes you a terrible person. As someone who also has terrible anxiety and depression I understand why you may be struggling with this ew discovery in light of your situation. It can be hard to realize something new about yourself when your life has been pretty standard for a long time. But I think the best thing to do is talk to your husband, as long as you feel ready and comfortable doing so. It sounds like your issue isn’t that you’ve fallen out of love because you discovered you’re bi, but that you’ve discovered you’re bi AND you’ve fallen out of love. If I’m wrong feel free to correct me.

I’m here to listen any time you want, but I am afraid keeping this inside won’t help you in the long-run. Take it from someone who is an expert at bottling things up and subsequently getting sick a lot because of it, hiding things doesn’t help. WHEN YOU ARE READY AND COMFORTABLE (and that’s something only you can decide) then I think you should talk to your husband. Couples don’t always stay in love, especially couples who get married very young. Maybe you guys should work on your relationship maybe you shouldn’t but that’s something that unfortunately I can’t help you with. I’m a single 22 y/o woman who has never been in ANY kind of relationship let alone a serious, devoted, or long-term one. I suggest talking to your husband and working this out together. In the meantime you can always come back here to talk or rant or whatever you need 💜

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Bi rant (2) I'll never act upon these feelings, because it would mean destroying a perfectly happy relationship and the best friendship I've ever had. But I just needed to vent about it with someone who is not involved in all this. So thanks for making this page, it's so good to find positive places where we can just talk about these things!

Yeah absolutely! I’m glad you felt comfortable enough to come rant to us. Sorry to hear about your situation. I know you didn’t come to us looking for advice necessarily but if you want it let us know. Otherwise, I hope you feel better soon 💜

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Bi rant (1) So, I'm in a happy relationship with a guy I've been secretly pining after for years. But one nice day I suddenly realise I'm also in love with my best friend, a straight girl in a very happy and committed relationship... I feel really ashamed about it. Like I'm a cheater (even though I'd never cheat on him). And it hurts so much that I can't even talk about it to my best friend in the world...

(answer in second post)

[biandaceconfessions]

Soooo...hi I am really at the edge of a breakdown. So i know for almost one and a half year that i'm bi and i feel good about it,but only on the internet and when i dont have to say it out loud. The last months i really had the urge to come out and tell everybody and be happy with it, but now i am really scared. I wouldnt tell my parents cause they are kinda homophobic but i want to tell it at least my friends. What shoul i do and how? ~lots of love

First, thank you for coming to us. I hope what I have to say is helpful to you 💖

If you think you are ready to come out, and it’s what you want to do, then you should. If you feel like you’re not 100% there or that you’ll be judged, i would recommend you don’t put yourself in the position to be hurt or ostracized. Ultimately it’s your life and if you feel ready and trust the people you’re coming out to, then you should, if it will make you happy.

Your happiness and comfort is key sweetheart, always. If you aren’t ready to come out to certain people, you shouldn’t. Your friends is a good first step, and I hope it goes well for you if you decide to come out to them 💕