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I’m having that problem where it’s hard to focus and write because either

a) i have too many project ideas piling up or

b) i’m not that into the current story

and i wish i knew which one it was

#i like writing up ideas and planning them and saving them for later #sticking them all away in a Maybe box #but i wish i could sit still long enough to finish a darn story!!#draft 3 is dragging so much #where did my motivation go #i think i need to approach it differently #bit negative #rmorada speaks

Been seeing some Pride discourse around TERFs and I had some interesting thoughts.

So first off to color everything about this discussion my world view is I’m a mix race trans woman and lesbian, and no, as some red fem argument's go, I do not think Lesbians are required to be attracted to me or date me and believe they can have whatever reason, or no reason at all, to reject me, but I do believe I’m entitled to call myself a woman and engage in the culture of pride, a celebration of a movement started by us, in the US at least.

However, that’s not what this is about, this is about a lot of discourse I’ve seen lately talking about the amount of anger at TERFs. A lot of post like “So many people threatening TERFs” “Or way to kick people out of pride just for disagreeing with you.” Where I sit on that is I don’t believe violence is healthy, I believe I’m right and they’re wrong and I’ll argue a TERF down passionately if I feel the need, and I will not be thrilled if TERFs come to me, but again, I’m more focused on the surprise in these post, TERFs seemed shocked at how visceral the hate towards them is, warranted or unwarranted (this post isn’t about justification only perspective)

And I think I know where that comes from. To a TERF, I’m a man trying to take something from her like any other element of the patriarchy. I’m a natural adversary like any other. They’re use to seeing me as the enemy and Trans women are just a small section of a constant in bigger problem to them, so that hate is cold and dispassionate.

I think for a TERF to understand why we recoil at you, and even hate you though I try not to, you have to understand. To us you were never just another element of our oppression. Hating Trans Women is in vogue these days, its fashionable to make us a insulting talking point, to humiliate us, to despise us, to label us insane. We see hate all the time, so just being an adversary wouldn’t be that big a deal.

The reason we react so much worse, is never did we think it would come from you. We turned to people like you, people fighting for gay rights, feminism, our long held confederation of LGBT people to protect us, give us the families we lost and friends we needed and in turn offer them back to you. To combine our voting blocks, share our communities. You were to us, suppose to be our sisters. Hurting us doesn’t feel like the same hate as everyone else, it feels like betrayal.

Now I don’t expect a TERF reading this to changer her opinion, nor do I expect you to stop demanding no one threaten you with serious violence, it’s not something I condone out side of self defense, but I don’t know, I think the world is incredibly complex and maybe this perspective might help you deal with that complexity.

Or maybe it won’t do anything. I don’t know.

#politics #bit negative #homophobia discussion #trans-phobia discussion

weh

back on wondering if i should delete my twitter account or nah, and got reminded that i should probably nuke my tumblr blog of 13 years as well because there's so much old art for scrapers to steal :\

i could edit the posts and replace pics with glazed art, but the reblogs with the old version would still be around and i cant do anything about it. i COULD report my own account and hope that staff would nuke it for me and all reblogs with it, but it's still not sure they'll do it

#txt;#pers;#bit negative

So until my laptop decides to charge again, I can't draw :)))))

#rambles #bit negative #it died while i was drawing my fursona #and it doesn't want to charge at all #i could use it without the battery but then it would lag amd the art would be shitty #uuugggggg

Just want to scream it from the hills

SYDNEY COOL SCENE IS SO FUCKING TOXIC AND IT IS ALL A LIE. A BUNCH OF INSECURE COLD CUNTS THAT FEED OFF OF SUPERFICIAL STIMULATION AND GRATIFICATION AND HAVE NO SENSE OF HUMANITY OR KINDNESS AND INCLUSIVENESS OF ANY KIND.

It’s so funny hearing people back in my hometown I grew up with talking about cool icons from Sydney. “Icons” I have interacted with in the club, parties, events etc and really these people are not people to admire or look up to. They are put on a pedestal because they know how to play the elitist cool kids club and that’s about fucking it, really no talent or authenticity added. The main ingredient is acting like a cold bitch and keeping up with the latest fashion trend. There is really no room for a nice wholesome conversation or soft human connection, people don’t take the time anymore to form these things because it’s just GO GO GO VOGUE VOGUE VOGUE

I have a very heavy heart from the time I have spent in the city recently, not sure how much more I can take. It’s left me pretty hopeless. I know it’s not my city of people and I am also aware that this is only a small portion of the people that make up Sydney but honestly it’s so infectious. You either give into it or you are spat out like a piece of dirt. Honesty, I am quite happy to be spat out. You just aren’t acknowledged unless you work hard for peoples attention. it’s so lame really. I just wanna poo in my hand and gift it to the Sydney art/queer/youth scene. It has become one big wank fest of ugliness and I am more than happy to skip it all.

#oh lord #bit negative #but insight is good #and somethings just aint working