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Ok, no. That is not even remotely a correct or ok way to define bisexual. I'm gonna break this down as best I can, as politely as I can, because I don't know you and I recognize that there's a chance you've been wildly misinformed and don't actually mean any harm by the things your saying here. However, I'm not gifted at being gentle with how I communicate, so please keep in mind that I'm literally trying not to be rude but sometimes I just come off that way anyway. First, I need to talk about your attitude towards trans folk and nonbinary folks. Step one, forget the concept of "opposite sex" because it's useless and irrelevant. There are a variety of ways in which one could determine sex, and there are more than 2 options for each of those methods, so essentially (scientifically, medically) there is no "opposite sex." Gender is much more relevant in terms of attraction anyway, unless the person in question is transphobic. Step two, forget "transgendered" as a word. Don't use it. Use transgender if you need to. Forget it as a gender category too, because it's not. In your definition of bisexual you talk about trans men as being "biogirls" and you treat them as women masquerading as men. A trans man is a man. That is his gender - man. Same for women. What you wrote essentially boiled down to a man attracted to men, which is not exactly bisexuality. Third, forget the idea that attraction to trans or nonbinary people are what makes someone pansexual. Anyone who's attracted to men can be attracted to trans men. Anyone who's attracted to women can be attracted to trans women. It does not change their orientation. For more on the nonbinary thing - http://first-i-put-in-earplugs.tumblr.com/post/84657434332/as-a-person-with-a-nonbinary-gender-i-get-really please check that out. (Sorry I can't link properly right now I'm on mobile.) Now, for your definition of bisexuality. Bisexual organizations, and the bi community in general, define it as either attraction to two or more genders, or attraction to genders similar to your own and different from your own. It's not restricted to two genders, nor does it depend on "same and opposite." Some of us are attracted to 2 genders. Some of us are attracted to all genders but prefer the term bisexual for any number of personal reasons (including but not limited to community, personal attraction, basic comfort levels, because they just feel like it). It's OK that bi and pan overlap. It does not invalidate either of them. But it's very important that people of both orientations respect the definitions of waiters orientations, and why we've chosen to id the way we have. If you have any questions, ask away, I'd love to try to answer them. :) Have a good day :) @ck3kgirl

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