honestly i had been waiting for your reaction to that post because i remember you and d//ny being really good friends and i hadnt realized you had already cut them out of your life and honestly i dont blame you. i unfollowed both of their blogs that i followed and i feel good about but but i also feel bad because i feel a little betrayed because i liked them and i used to like talking to them, you know?
Honestly, I kept being friends with them after I found out they were an exclusionist because we shared the same opinions and interests, and because I thought she was a reasonable discourser, so I thought I could have conversations about why I think Ace people are LGBT, but that was quickly going nowhere.
I felt bad whenever she would talk shit about people in our group chat, or about people who practically worshiped her on tumblr, but I never told anyone because I would rather shut her down about that stuff than suddenly tell people the person they of as a friend was being awful. But then the “Mogai Hell” stuff happened and that was the last straw. She is no longer in the server where it happened, but a lot of us don’t feel comfortable using it, many of us stayed in just in case Bluespock started on ace discourse again.
Whenever I brought up stuff about being trans and how similar the rhetoric is to terf rhetoric, she would speak over me and tell me what was and was not transphobic. Even then, when the mogai hell thing happened, I didn’t even bring up terf rhetoric, I brought up “Detransitioned” radfem tumblr and how they would use their “detransitioning” stories to attack trans people and try to convince trans people to detransition.
Which is why the whole “that one looks strange because they said they are FtM” got to me the worst because *I* used to identify as a FtM trans person when I was figuring out my identity. I used to identify as Genderfluid when figured out i was NB, and eventually I came to Identify as Agender. The difference here is, I don’t go around saying that being Genderfluid or FtM is invalid simply because the labels did not fit me, like she and her group do to ace people, and recently, bi people. I know these identities are valid, and they are just as valid as mine is. Same with ace people, there are gay ace, pan ace, trans gay ace, trans bi aces, aces of all kinds, and all ace identities are just as valid as my Agender Gay Identity is.
