do you ever hate those "is it okay to reblog?" asks? personally i find them so offensive. theyre so scared of accidentally speaking over you that they dont even treat you like a normal person over the internet, the most equal of all playing fields. it's so infantilizing... this isnt ragebait btw im genuinely curious how you feel when people ask permission to interact with you online. to me it comes across like they arent treating you like an equal & think that mentioning your borderline ID is like saying a slur, so they have to ask the person who can say the slur if it's okay beforehand. like your borderline ID is a dirty topic that shouldnt be talked about. that's how to looks to me when people ask before reblogging posts about borderline ID. how do you feel about it? sorry im rambling im not good at writing coherently.
Hi! No hate at all. I get where you’re coming from. I think when people are interacting with my blog, they just want to be respectful, and not overstep any boundaries. They’re curious. Especially as someone with a small, but still quite big blog with a decent follower base.
I don’t think people have ill intentions, however I could be wrong. People are curious when it comes to borderline ID and intellectual disabilities. It’s something they don’t hear about everyday, it’s something that IS talked about like it’s a slur. People are afraid of it and that’s why I talk about it so much.
I know people don’t see me as a equal, and I’m learning to accept that to an extent. Sometimes, I get upset about it and sometimes I learn to accept it because there is nothing I can do and I honestly don’t want to waste my already very limited energy.
For me, I try and see the best in people. That includes online, so when people are asking me if they have permission, my first thought Is that they’re just making sure. However, I do understand where you’re coming from.
People are overly careful when it comes to interacting with me. They see me as fragile almost, like someone they have to care for or make sure they’re not offending like I might break. It’s like in real life, people will often talk to my sister or mother first before talking to me because they assume I can’t talk for myself, or think I’m not able too.
This is tumblr, I try not to be to offended by things on here because it’s such a SMALL thing in my life. I do this because I enjoy it, I enjoy educating and telling people about my story.
I get what you mean, and I think a lot of times, this might be the case. However, sometimes it’s not. We can’t be for certain because I don’t know the person. I’ll probably never know the person. I can’t know what someone’s true intentions are, and I’m ok with that.
