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boredomplague replied to your post “‘go to the therapist’ they said. ‘get on those antidepressants’ they...”

You can but like, why not do both?

velvet burger is right next to my favourite pub and i shouldn’t be drinking i could use a pint of guinness

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boredomplague replied to your post:-

Replies tell me to say something nice I guess “no one is going to shoot you” technically counts :P

why are you so mean

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On my way home from Uni there is a farm with a big sign out the front that says "Triple R" and all I can think of when I see it is your lovely blog!

Can you take a picture? O.o That is sooo cool! 

I know it's got nothing to do with my blog but I can pretend it does, right?! XD 

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Even numbers

Yay! All right, Valentines answers under the cut…

 2:Have you ever been deeply in love?

Yeah. What a glorious mess love is, right?

4:Have you ever changed for someone?

I have a little in the past, and I regret how I acted in some ways (distancing myself from family, friends, and personal enjoyment.)

6:Have you ever been cheated on?

Yes, unfortunately.

8:Would you date someone who’s well known for cheating?

I am patient and I always want to give someone the benefit of the doubt. If I am involved with someone, and they desire things outside of our relationship, I would have to know. For safety’s sake, honesty is important. If an open relationship is preferred, we can talk about it. It probably depends on my partner as well, and how well they handle the discussion, etc.

10:Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

My experience is mainly in serious, dedicated relationships (though some have been rather short in length.) I am usually too shy to approach someone with just a fling in mind, though I suppose I could enjoy something like that, given a tad more courage.

12:How many people have you ever hooked up with?

I’ve had five sexual partners, if that is what is being asked. I’ve even been sort of a booty call for one of them, after the fact. Though if this is about random hook-ups, I guess none, since I have known fairly well everyone I have been that intimate with.

14:What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?

The most important things when it comes to sex is knowledge and consent. You cannot ask a child to understand what that entails when many of us are barely taught the basics until the end of high school. I had known kids my age around 16-17 who started becoming active, and they understood what responsibilities that followed, but I worry too many rush into it, trying hard to feel grown-up. There should not be any rush or demand or pressure to start.

16:Do you believe in “love at first sight”?

I think so. I think love can strike a person many ways, be it at seeing a smile, or hearing the sound of a person’s laugh.

18:What do you consider a deal breaker?

Other than personal views on subjects that matter to me and cruel dishonesty, I suppose I do not find myself interested in pursuing a relationship with someone who is not considerate towards their partner. I have been with a person who never wanted to accommodate my personal desires when there was conflict, and I would always have to acquiesce.

20:Are you currently in a relationship?

Nope, though that’s okay. I’m sticking to my guns and just trying to live life and let love find me. That’s the plan for now at least.

22:Do you think people should date their friends?

I know it might not work for everyone, but I have known a few friends who tested their feelings for each other, and found that even if they found each other attractive, and though the sex was nice and even comforting, they just couldn’t date each other anymore, because they found their desire for each other just didn’t stretch into long-term dating/relationships. I think I could see myself dating a friend.

24:Do you think love can last forever?

I think so. Love can grow, it can change, but tended and fed properly, I can see a romantic love stay alive as long as people care for it.

26:Would you break up with someone your parents didn’t approve of?

My parents have never forbid me from dating someone, but they have seen warning signs of my getting hurt and my future heartbreak, and I have ignored their words. My parents do seem to respect that if I am going to screw up, it’s on me but they still love me. They have not met everyone I ever dated, but I might keep their opinions in mind when considering whether to continue a relationship.

28:Do you think long distance relationships can work?

Yes. I think I could enjoy one as well.

30:Are you straight, bi, gay or pansexual?

I am very, very pansexual. If you ever want to have a friend to talk with about someone you have a crush on, I usually very happy to indulge.

32:Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?

I have received more emotional and mental abuse than physical, but yes.

34:What do you think about getting your partner’s name tattooed?

Perhaps, if the person meant something very special to me.

36:Are you still a virgin?

I had my sexual debut months after my 18th birthday.

38:Do you enjoy love films?

A cinematic adventure can be a real treat, especially when you can consider what goes into making a quality film. There are some that I have enjoyed.

40:Have you ever had a valentine?

Yes, but not for some time. Looks like more discount chocolate for me this year…

42:Have you ever read “Romeo & Juliet”?

Yes, and I recommend Baz Luhrmann’s movie. And while you’re at it, consider picking up a copy of the complete Shakespeare, or find a chance someday to see some of his stuff performed live. Yes, I am a theatre nerd, why do you ask?

44:Would you consider yourself “romantic”?

Yes, and I believe the diagnosis of the condition is fatal.

46:Have you ever been “friendzoned”?

Have I shared my interests and feelings with someone who I was attracted to only to find them undesired? Sure, I have. It’s impossible to imagine that every person would find me attractive. There are any number of reasons why someone might not desire to pursue a change in relations with someone, and that is their choice and freedom. I have even been guilty of denying my own feelings and “friendzoning” myself when I found the person was interested in another, or I was afraid to lose a valued friendship over any discomfort between the two of us.

48:What’s your favorite love song?

This is a tough one to answer! It’s like asking me to appreciate one star out of the night sky more than any other. Love songs are great, and I enjoy so many. One guaranteed to move me emotionally would have to be “Somebody to Love” by Queen.

50:If you’re single, why do you think you are?

Currently? I’m coming out of self-imposed exile. I’ve got a laundry list of ignored personal problems that I have been trying to work through, trying to better myself so that I can feel more solid and ready to approach others with determination and conviction. I just want to be the best “me” and stay true to myself.

52:Are you good at giving other people advices regarding dating/ relationships?

I would say that I am good at listening. I try to offer perspective from outside, try to avoid placing blame. Sometimes all you might need is a little counseling, a little healing, a chance to be heard and to talk about what is bothering you.

54:How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on facebook)?

I don’t really use facebook, but I don’t think I would hide a relationship, unless a partner was uncomfortable. At this point in my life, I will live and love and refuse to be ashamed. Online public declarations are not as important to me when compared to the comfort and strength of the relationship between me and a partner.

56:Have you ever “destroyed” a relationship?

No.

58:Are you the “dominant” or the “submissive” part in a relationship?

I tend to be a people-pleaser, which often puts me in a more submissive role, but I am finding myself and gaining confidence in pursuing my own desires, and sort of feel a tad more dominant.

60:What’s your opinion on open relationships?

As long as they are approached maturely and honestly, I see no harm in it. Sometimes a person may have other desires that a partner may not feel comfortable sharing, and a person might want to pursue it with another. A good friend of mine has one with her husband, and they love and respect one another, and at all times remain truthful and safe. I could see myself involved in one, or accepting a partner who desires one.

62:How do you define “cheating”?

Pursuing sexual activities outside the boundaries of a relationship. Flirting is fine as long as it’s harmless, so is chatting with exes. I put a lot of trust in a partner, and respect them to know what is right and wrong. I have been cheated on, and lied to, and left ignored while trying to find out what happened because I had plans with someone that day and ended up finally seeing them 10 hours later then expected.

64:Do you think Valentine’s Day is overrated?

I think so much pressure is put on it that it can hurt. Not everyone wants their worth to be determined by how others desire them, and it is no longer elementary school where everyone is given a valentine by everyone else. People feel left out this time of year, and romantic love is given more respect and press than love between family members, or between friends.

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1 and 54 :)

1. Do you have a crush at the moment? Yes, I have two actually.

54. How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on facebook)? Not that imporant.

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boredomplague said: That is probably the least selfish thing going on on Facebook. I kinda want to tell your brother to pull his head in

Yeah, hehe, me too. He's had lots of problems with the rest of the family as well I'm just glad he's finally learned to stop commenting on facebook where everyone can see it, and to call me instead. Even if he's being a dick either way at least he isn't publicly being a dick which he has been in the past. We're all learning here.

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boredomplague said: I can’t decide if you really didn’t like the shirt you were wearing or if you are a tactical genius :P

Hmmm, maybe a little bit of both xP

I had to change in front of them, too. We were on the lake and there was nowhere to hide so I just made them turn around, lol.

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I’ve been tagged by imcominatcha

Rule one: post the rules. Rule two: answer the questions the tagger asked you, then make eleven new ones. Rule three: tag eleven people. Rule four: let the tagged know they’ve been tagged.

1. Which cartoon/anime/tele character do you most resemble (or would most like to resemble)?

I think I'm a bit like Clara Oswald. I think of myself as very independent (though I didn't get that way overnight), I'm small but I can think for myself, I don't like it when my friends betray me or leave me, I try to do what's right, and I like to dress up. Maybe I'm just comparing myself to her because I love her but, eh, whatever.

2. What is your favourite breakfast food?

I love love LOVE french toast! Absolutely smothered in butter and syrup! Orange juice is a must have and susages!

3. What are 5 things you like about yourself?

I like my hair, my growth (as a person), my ambition, the way my brain works, and the way I've been able to keep myself afloat this long on my own. 

4. Have you ever taken/Do you take hard drugs?

Never interested me.

5. What is 1 thing you have always wanted, but have never got?

I always wanted a twin doll and one of those little cars you could actually drive around when I was little. My parents were poor so I never got either of them. Right now I really want a serger or a machine that can handle leather and maybe my own studio and a real car. It'll take time, but I'm sure I will eventually be able to work up to all four of those things. 

6. Pick one: early mornings or late nights. (this isn’t a question lol)

I like both quite a lot but I think I would pick early mornings.

7. What did you want to be when you grew up? What changed?

I wanted to be a fashion designer and not much has changed at all except now instead of runways and magazines, I want to do wardrobe for movies and shows.

8. What is the most embarrassing situation you’ve been in?

I don't really have any major embarrassing moments, just little ones I deal with every single day of my life. One time though, I was on a date and we were going to the movies and I tripped up the stairs on the way to our seats.

9. What is your greatest fear?

I have a phobia of spiders but I think my subconscious is terrified of abandonment and I hate it.

10. If you could say one thing to one person before forever vanishing from existence, what would it be, and to whom?

I have a friend who helped me out through a really rough time in my life. He helps out everyone but I know he goes through a lot of stuff on his own and I wish I could just hug him and hold him and tell him just how much I care about him and how much he means to me. But I would also not want to do this, obviously, because I would be vanishing afterwords and it wouldn't make any difference.

11. If you had to relive any day for the rest of your life, which day would it be?

The same friend from my last answer, he took me up to spend a weekend with my sister, all of us were there, me, my sister, her fiancee, and him. It is honestly the best weekend I've ever had and I would relive any day of it because it was just so fantastic. It was during my rough time and being able to get away, it was so calm and relaxed and we laughed and had a lot of fun. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

My questions!

1. What is your definition of art?

2. Favorite dessert?

3. Pick a season!

4. If you had no choice but to be famous, which inlet would you choose to make yourself that way (i.e. singer, actor, writer, etc)?

5. What are your plans for the future?

6. What drives you?

7. Favorite Halloween movie?

8. Do you have very vivid dreams?

9. Choose between a cabin in the woods for a year or a little hut on the beach for a year.

10. What's your go-to snack when there's nothing to eat?

11. Favorite musical artist?

Super jolly fun times! I tag:

boysjustmakememad, seashellsandscalytails, boredomplague, queerbot23, agent-rhiannon, kendraaleighb, cat-with-mustache, kattynisskitten, riley1cannon, hannisuperwholocked, stephenisalittleshit