#brie anon

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Anon Advice Asks - June 29

brie anon, midnights anon, frog stuffie guy anon, @0bsessedwithdeadgayswizards, default anon

brie anon

hey, its brie anon, sure has been a while huh?

my life is going to shit, I’m barely keeping it together. so for context my parents have been separated for around à year and a half now, my dad just started dating this woman and my mum had a bit of breakdown. so thats been shit, and then just as things were getting better my dad announced that he and this new woman were going to a festival together. the festival is on the grounds where my aunts funeral was held, so it’s already not really ok to mum, and also it’s the weekend of what wouldve been my parents 20th anniversary. So it’s been shit for my mum. But it’s been spilling over a lot, there’s a lot of shouting and I’m really stressed. Also it’s about to be summer break, so I won’t even have school to escape from it. I’m really scared.

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I’m so tired, all the time. I just dont know if it’s even worth trying. I don’t know. I’m sorry.

thank you cas

Hi! It HAS been a while but I remember you!

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. Remember that I'm here for you and I care <3

I also want to remind you that your mom's problems aren't your problems. I know it's hard, but try not to let your mom's struggles consume you, you know?

I forget, do you have an adult you can talk to? Someone who understands and can be there for you, especially when those urges happen?

My inbox is always open as well <3

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midnights anon (CW- SH mention)

Hi!

Don't worry, you're not sending too many asks <3

Honestly, it sounds like your parents don't have a very good understanding of mental health. The way your dad talked about the noodle situation wasn't cool at all! You're right- there's nothing wrong with having the food you want if you're hungry.

Also, with what your parents said about SH...that's really frustrating. I'm glad you're clean but it's sad that they don't realize they're making it so it's hard to talk to them.

I'm so sorry you're feeling sad and off...I really hope the writing thing and the teen hangout help you build the community you deserve <3

Sending love!

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frog stuffie guy

hi!

Have you considered finding a doctor/psychiatrist that might be able to give you something to help? I just get nervous if you say you're using that to help solve a problem, you know? No judgement at all, I just know in the past you said you were nervous about addictive tendencies.

<3

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@0bsessedwithdeadgayswizards

Hi <3

I'm not sure if you will see this or not but I just wanted to send you some love and tell you you have people on here who love and support you. Things won't always be this way and remember, you are so valid! <3

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default anon

me bcs shes very pretty and smart and good at sports and nice and lskdfjksdjf

but

am i gaslighting myself into thinking i like her because i dont want to die alone rip

or am i gaslighting myself into thinking i dont like her because i dont think ive really liked anyone before and why now

pls send hlpe

-default anon

also i hope ur having a nice day <3

Hi <3

I know this probably isn't helpful but you are overthinking this a LOT. I know it's a lot easier said than done but enjoy spending time with her and see how things go! You're young- you're not going to die alone no matter how this goes and it's okay that this is the first time you've liked someone! It's also okay not to know exactly how to feel. BREATHE. SMILE. It's going to be okay <3

[daphuu]

Dear Lover Anon (Brie),

You okay fam? Haven’t heard from you in a good day or three. Hope you’re alright!!!! 💜💜💜☺️

[my-castles-crumbling]

hey it’s Brie anon,

First of all I didn’t end up telling my parents, I got too scared. But, I am in counselling now and thats really help even though I haven’t told her about it yet either, but we have talked about good coping strategies so I think I’m gonna properly try and get clean.

secondly, I kinda forgot what was in the rest of that ask. I actually forgot I sent it your reply post just popped up on my dash. Oh well haha

also it’s my birthday in 3 days, I’m excited cuz I’m getting more camera film but I’m scared because that means the start of another awful year that I’m just gonna have to try and live through. I hate birthdays, like all birthdays I don’t know why.

also also, I realised that I remember basically nothing from primary school or my first few years of high school which is kinda scary

Hi!!

I’m so glad you’re in counseling, that’s an amazing first step. It makes me happy to know you’re working towards talking about the help you need.

Wait is your birthday the 17th? Mine was too! Birthday twins!! I hope your birthday ended up going well ❤️ I know sometimes the can be hard because they don’t live up to expectations.

Have you talked to your counselor about not remembering a lot? Sometimes that can be a sign of trauma unfortunately

I’m sending you extra birthday love!

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to brie anon

Hi!

I know this is coming after you already talked with your parents- I hope it went well! I'm proud of you for asking for help and being honest about what you need and how you feel <3 Update me if you think about it!

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hey ummm it’s Brie anon, I sorta just wanted to check in because things are getting better, I’m starting therapy next week and I got my first part-time job. I’m doing well. Thank you for all your help. You’re so wonderful.

Awww this is amazing to hear, I'm so happy for you! I'm sending you all of the love!

<3 <3

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To Brie Anon

TW: SH

Hi!

I'm glad this with Brie are better and I'm honestly glad your parents know about you and are being so kind about it <3

As far as telling your friend, I don't think it's a bad idea if you approach it like you say. I think talking about it isn't a bad thing at all, and it's nice to not have to hide it. But I also love that you recognize the need to tell her it's not her burden to bear or to take care of you, and especially since you're young, that's an important thing to make sure she knows. I think as long as you trust them to be kind about it, then it's nice to have someone to be honest with.

Sending love!

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To Brie Anon

Tw: SH

Okay so I need you to know that even though you care about Brie deeply, she is not your responsibility. That’s why it’s not the healthiest for two people to rely on each other to get clean, because when one relapses it can really affect the other.

It’s wonderful that you want to help your friend and it’s so kind of you to be there for her, but both of you need help that the other can’t give. You both need to reach out to adults who can get you to people to give you healthy coping mechanisms.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s totally okay to have friends to talk to and get you through things. But you need a network of support, not just the one person.

As far as Brie goes, it sounds like you’ve done all you can do. You’ve been an amazing friend and support system and she will reach out when she is ready. Until she does, focus on getting yourself the help you deserve. And when she does, remind her that you love her and that she deserves help too ❤️

Keep me updated!

[quackeroos]

Hey ya! Ari , How would y/n’s personality change after the surgery? I mean that she is so kind and selfless and supportive before the surgery but when sb asked what would happen after surgery you said that her feelings would be reduced to half . How would that affect her personality? - brie

heeeeyy brie!! personally, i like to believe that love affects all kinds of emotions (as i’ve said in that ask before). so if we were to take that emotion away from Y/n, it will affect Y/n’s feelings and her personality. because Y/n’s feelings is one of the things that build her personality. so when her feelings have been reduced to half, that will be the only capacity she’ll have, and her personality will be greatly affected since Y/n is expressive with certain feelings, such as her humor and her being caring/ her maternal instincts towards Morgan. 

for example, if one were to make a joke with her, people will expect her to rebut that joke or joke with them as well. but since Y/n only has half of her humor, she’ll at times not get the joke or fail to return a joke to her friends. or if Morgan asks to play with her, she’ll hesitate and sometimes be incapable of being the once loving and responsible sister she was before the surgery. 

Y/n will always feel half empty after her surgery and half the person she used to be. it’ll not only be a big change for her, but for the people she’s closest with. 

thank you for asking this, brie!! i personally loved answering your question (although it was kinda tricky to answer, still luv it tho!) <33 stay safe!!