PSA:
The appropriate response when your friend (who is OBVIOUSLY NERVOUS) tells you something about her identity is NOT "no you're not".
Because maybe she's been struggling with finding a word for herself for months now. Because maybe she's spent countless days brooding over why she is the way she is. Because maybe she's doubted herself EVERY SINGLE TIME she has told someone.
Because maybe she knew she couldn't tell you because she knows that you're traditional and religious and wouldn't understand. Because maybe she knew that you'd take it with a grain of sand.
Thanks, friend. Months and probably years actually of building myself to a point where I can love one part of myself and own it have come crashing before me.
I never was good at taking criticism.