I guess i just don't really understand how adopting works in the us. I was just thinking that when he was really little, all wide eyed and stuff, before he became jaded and bad behaved, he would end up being adopted, instead of bounced between foster homes like he was...
ok now i’ve officially Looked Into Adoption (my search history is now definitely going to tell a story) BUT here’s a couple of pages i looked at in my brief research - x, x. the second one is a british charity but both sites seemed to cover domestic and international adopting so i’m kind of assuming they’re more general than specific… also as a disclaimer, this is super cursory research and the below is only gonna be my guesses. if anyone has actual knowledge of adoption and fostering in the us, please weigh in ahah
from what i can tell, adoption is no longer hugely common for young children, and andrew would have been adopted from birth, more or less. also if tilda went back for aaron it wouldn’t have been a stretch to guess she might want to come back for andrew, so the carers may have thought fostering was the best option.
additionally, adoption is a long long long process, and often starts before the baby is even born - but obviously tilda didn’t put the twins up until after they were born, thus limiting some opportunity for that. and following thatx it may have made more sense to just try to get him into a home rather than aim for adoption?
andddd the least cheerful one, adoption costs money. fostering earns you money. and given we already know andrew’s foster parents were shitty… well. that’d be a motivation for sure.
and of course, i know you mention the early on thing and i totally get you, but later on when he’d been labelled a problem child, people would have understandably been very hesitant to adopt. poor child.