Being Abused Doesn’t Make It Okay to Abuse Others
This meme is exactly what I thought when I read this local news article about a former classmate (and one of the worse bullies I had, by the way) that is now in jail for attempted murder after he set his ex on fire. The DA was such a massive abuser apologist!
“ He described Mr. Osborne’s “less than ideal childhood” that include physical and sexual abuse, as well as a dependency on alcohol that lead to substance abuse and factors to be considered in the sentencing.”
So. Fucking. What. I know lots of survivors of physical and sexual abuse- myself included, given what a woman did to me when I was 7- that have never, ever, EVER considered doing such a thing to an ex. One of my ex lived by Trump’s “grab them by the pussy” remark and did that to at least 9 girls- that was my reason for dumping him, in fact. And, I didn’t realize it at the time because I was in too bad a headspace to defend myself, but I think what he did to me might qualify as abuse- I told him I was extremely uncomfortable with PDA and he’d STILL grab my ass or boobs in public Is that abuse? It’s definitely crossing boundaries. ANYWAY. Wouldn’t even consider lighting him on fire.
Article here; trigger warning for graphic descriptions: http://riverheadnewsreview.timesreview.com/2018/01/85304/victim-describes-being-set-on-fire-at-ex-boyfriends-sentencing/