Hi so I already id as genderfluidflux(NB and male) but the temperature/ and hardness of my gender shifts with it. So for example, if I'm intensely NB my gender will also feel warm and hard/solid while if I'm less intensively male it will feel cold and soft. Is there a term for this sort of thing?
I couldn’t find a term like that, but the closest terms I could find were Calidgender: a gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is warm and Frigugender: a gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is cool. There’re a lot of modified terms for these, like fluid, flux, masc., fem., nonbinary etc. versions, so I recommend looking at this post and this post and seeing if anything fits.
Your best bet would probably be to coin your own gender. Sorry I couldn’t be of more help!
Under the cut there’s some warm, hard/solid, cold and soft genders, if you (or anyone else) are interested.
Benegender: “Bene” meaning “gentle, good”; a gender identity that is very low key and soft; positive gender (meaning that it’s there [not that it’s a “good” gender compared to others]; not an absence of gender). Used to describe a gender that is felt by the person/being as an undertone.
Gendersoft: A gender that feels soft, not blurred like moll-, but gentle and kind.
Inturgender: A core gender which feels soft, quiet, or subdued. May experience feelings of another gender or genders overlaying it. The name comes from the latin word “inturbidus”, meaning “undisturbed, quiet”.
Mollgender/Molligender: 1) A gender identity that is largely related to a certain gender, but feels soft, as if it has blurred into other genders. Used as mollgirl, mollboy, mollinonbinary, etc. 2) A gender that is quiet, soft and subdued. Can be used to mean a gender that feels gentle, not too present or blurred somehow.
Genderpp/Genderpianissimo: A gender that is very soft; could be that is is extremely close to or is agender.
Heliogender: Similar to agender; a strong sensation of warmth and genderlessness. An intense and burning sensation of gender (or lack thereof).
Sungender: A gender that is warm and happy.
Shirgender/Shiregender: A gender that is small, peaceful and cosy, but that is still strong. It’s meant for hobbitkin, but nonkin may use this term too.
Ternegender: A gender that is small and dull, but which is neither weak nor hollow. Can be used as a prefix for another gender like ternegirl, terneboy, ternenonbinary.
Wintergender: Similar to blizgender (a gender that feels cold, snowy, and harsh), but it also encompasses a second gender, or has other known gender qualities to it.
Volcanogender, Lavagender, or Magmagender: A gender that is dormant most of the time but sometimes erupts with extreme heat and intensity, similar to how volcanoes erupt. It can be used by itself or combined with other terms, e.g. volcanoboy, volcanogirl, volcanononbinary, etc.
Pyrofluid: A gender defined by a strong fire aesthetic, like pyrogender, but in this case a person can change between feeling “warm” and feeling “cold” about their gender. A pyrogender person always “feels warm” about the gender, it may just dwindle but never extinguish. Pyrofluid people can “feel cold”, and when that happens it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’ll be agender or on the agender spectrum. It may just mean that they end up feeling apathetic about their gender, not wanting to think about it.
Calidgender: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is warm.
Calidgenderfleck: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is warm. Has flecks of any otherwise specified gender throughout.
Calidenbyfleck: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is warm. Has flecks of nonbinary gender(s) throughout.
Calidboyfleck: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is warm. Has flecks of male or male-aligned gender(s) throughout.
Calidgirlfleck: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is warm. Has flecks of female or female-aligned gender(s) throughout.
Calidgenderfluid: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is warm. May sometimes have flecks of varying genders.
Calidgenderflux: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is warm. Flecks of gender vary in intensity from nonexistent to opaque.
Calidum: warm in latin
Frigugender: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is cool.
Frigugenderfleck: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is cool. Has flecks of any otherwise specified gender throughout.
Friguenbyfleck: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is cool. Has flecks of nonbinary gender(s) throughout.
Friguboyfleck: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is cool. Has flecks of male or male-aligned gender(s) throughout.
Frigugirlfleck: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is cool. Has flecks of female or female-aligned gender(s) throughout.
Frigugenderfluid: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is cool. May sometimes have flecks of varying genders.
Frigugenderflux: A gender that is not male, female, or nonbinary but exists. Has a solid core and a non-solid (but not liquid or gas) surrounding and is warm. Flecks of gender vary in intensity from nonexistent to opaque.
Frigus: cool or cold in latin
* Calidgender and Frigugender are considered xenogenders and the rest are xeno and polygenders.
Huh, that’s weird you can’t add the flags. Possibly upload them to imgur.com and just submit the link?
