#fenasks

[xeno-aligned]

I just wanted to asked if it’s ok for neurotypical people to use xenogenders as long as they’re being respectful and being mindful of the experiences some of the gender requires(hope that makes sense!)

xenogenders aren't neurodivergent exclusive (with the exception of neurogenders), anyone can use them!

[neurogender]

do you know any genders and orientations that are related to adhd and MADD

adhd: (I couldnt find any orientations, only genders!)

Focigender represents a gender identity that is influenced by or shifts with your hyperfixations/obsessions. It was primarily made with ADHD and BPD in mind but it’s free to be used by any neurodivergent person (including self-dxed) who experiences a similar strong focus on things. This includes autistic special interests and also multiply-diagnosed, undiagnosed and questioning people!

passiogender: a gender influenced by gender being a neurodivergent person’s special interest/hyperfixation (could be considered a subset of autigender/fascigender/chaotigender/etc.)

Foggender: A gender which is close to a certain gender, but cannot be directly pinpointed due to brainfog (a lack of concentration or wakefulness associated with ADHD, fibromyalgia, depression, etc.)

gendernimius: a gender that’s influenced by ones hyperactivity; a hyperactive, uncontrollable gender. only to be used by folx with adhd.

ADnurix: A gender that is caused by the Attention Deficit in ADHD. This gender is basically “Executive Dysfunction: Gender Edition”. It’s somewhere in the brain fog. You just don’t know where it is just yet. The gender was just here a second ago, I’ll find it, I swear. This term can only be used by people with ADHD.

fixigender: a fluid gender experienced by those with adhd which can fluctuate or intensify with a hyperfixation. can feel like it fades without a hyperfixation & can also depend on what the hyperfixation is!

madd:

dremegender / dremgender / dreamgender / draumgender: A gender influenced heavily by maladaptive daydreaming.

Mala-: An orientation which is created or influenced by maladaptive daydreaming or fantasy prone personalities.

escapigender: a gender that changes when experiencing escapism/maladaptive daydreams, or the lack/gain of a gender during. this definition is for people with maladaptive daydream/dissociative disorder or escapism only

paragender: A gender that is affected by one’s daydreams and the events that occur in one’s paracosms. more specifically by the way your parame(s)/paraself(paraselves) manifest. To be used by Maladaptive Daydreamers.

[neopronoun-radio]

Can I have ie/iem/ier/iers/iemself, o/oem/oir/oirs/oemself, and thxy/thxm/thxr/thxrs/thxmself? Please and thank you!

requests are closed at the moment, but feel free to send them in again when theyre open!

[xenobutch]

u can’t be butch and a man. doing that makes you a lesbophobe. it’s really disrespectful to equate masculine lesbians to men in the way that you’re doing. i’m a butch lesbian. butch lesbians aren’t men. butch lesbians are NEVER men. butch is an exclusively lesbian term for women and nonbinary lesbians. stop stealing from lesbians.

hey, my first discourse ask! congrats~

1) you can for sure be a butch and a man. source, me, a butch man. nah for real - butch has always been a term for all queer people. if you look at queer ball culture in the 80s, you’ll find people of all genders calling themselves butch. (paris is burning, anyone?)

2) i’m not a lesbian, so we’re in agreement in that butch lesbians aren’t men (unless they personally define themselves in that way)!

3) like i said in no.1, butch (and femme) is not a term that’s lesbian exclusive. it’s not even wlw exclusive. here’s a masterpost of links to essays that cover this. butch voices have a FAQ on this.

you can also look through my discourse tag to find more articles & essays.

[ask-pride-color-schemes]

So I have a question. I’m an Afab. I feel strong disassociation with male pronouns and mild-medium disassociation with female pronouns. I haven’t experimented with pronouns(I have anxiety and don’t want to bother ppl about it), but I feel better with like- no pronouns?? Does that make sense? Is there a term for this?

you can def use no pronouns! that’s called being nullpronouned, according to this post. one way you could do this is to have people use your name all the time, e.g. [name] went to the bookstore to buy a book for [name] and [name] was happy with [name]’s choice.

- x-a

[xeno-aligned]

hey Will, I'm low on spoons right now but I saw that you're the new host and person that runs this blog, so even if you're not as active I wanted to ask if you were stuck on the same arophobic stuff Morgan was?

this is what i think:

[id: a chart titled ‘the asexual spectrum (aspec)’. underneath the title is written: “asexual, aromantic, aplatonic, greyromantic, quoisexual, alloaro, akoi/lithromantic, demisexual, aegosexual... and many more!” next to each orientation is their respective flag. end id]

[xeno-aligned]

There are so many genders! I had no idea, this is making me so happy

:) im glad!

[xeno-aligned]

Do you know any terms for not knowing your gender or not having words to describe it

Vexgender or Vexegender: When one’s gender is in the non-binary/agender spectrum, but pinpointing it beyond that is impossible because the individual does not understand the concept of gender.

Turbogender: A gender that you have tried to figure out but is too confusing and tangled.

Virgender: A gender identity that is practically and particularly genderless. This usually happens when it is too stressful or difficult to have a gender.

Graygender or Gray Agender: Describes a person who is ambivalent about their gender identity/expression, but who identifies at least partially with a gender (defined or not) outside of the binary. They may experience a weak sense of gender, or have difficulty defining their gender, or just not be overly involved in gender as a concept.

Gendervoid or Voidgender: A gender identity defined by absence, a blank space or void where a gender might otherwise be.

Mimicnull: A gender that is purely mimicry and reaction to outside stimuli. You have no real baseline gender, just an absence where your gender would be. Designed for neurodivergent folks but anyone can use it. 

Seagender: a gender that is as deep and unknown as the ocean itself. It’s a gender that is mostly incomprehensible but slightly familiar in human terms.