#celibacy positivity

[ahopefulbromantic]

It was another hot day. I fell asleep on a chair on my porch, a quick afternoon nap. I woke up wrapped in Jesus' arms.

Still half asleep, i did what i do all the time lately, what's only natural these days. I leaned and kissed Him. Square on the lips, a lazy peck, like a family that He obviously is.

"Do You kiss others, too?" i mumbled against His lips, i don't know why. "Like," i listed my fellow celibate friends, consecrated virgins and priests.

He grinned like the most radiant sun that He obviously is, His teeth a row of pearls of great price i could go and sell all that i had and buy. Maybe i already have.

"Would you like Me to?"

"Yes!" i said immediately. "I-if both You and them would want it of course. I just, i'd like them to feel loved and kissed by You, too. It's nice.

"And also, when i kiss You i could kind of kiss them all as well at the same time. Like Y'know an indirect kiss or somethin' idk..."

He just laughed at that, hugging me closer, a hearty laugh that vibrated through His chest and through mine in turn.

"I love it when you're sleepy," He giggled.

[ahopefulbromantic]

Would a Consecrated Virgin be allowed to adopt/foster a child?

No, i don't think so. To be a CV is to sacrifice the possibility to create a family in a traditional sense, in other words to be a wife and a mother, by becoming a bride and a mother in a spiritual sense. So it's reasonable to assume that just as we aren’t allowed to bear children biologically, we shouldn't be allowed to adopt, because adoptive motherhood is equal to birth one. At least that's what i think, cause again, i’m going just by my experiences and conversations with other CVs, as i couldn’t find it in the church documents. The closest i found is in JP2’s Mulieris dignitatem:

”Spousal love always involves a special readiness to be poured out for the sake of those who come within one’s range of activity. In marriage this readiness, even though open to all, consists mainly in the love that parents give to their children. In virginity this readiness is open to all people, who are embraced by the love of Christ the Spouse ”

which would imply that for a CV focusing on a select number of children and carrying for them as a mother in a traditional sense would be... limiting vocationally? for lack of a better word. Which seems to be in agreement with 1 Corinthians 7,34b:

“An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.”

if we assume that a similar argument could be made for their relationships with children.

However, at the same time, CVs can become godmothers (i have two goddaughters for example!) and i know there’s a long tradition of godparents being the ones to take care of the child if anything happens to their parents, so i guess maybe there are some rare exceptions in which a bishop can allow adoption?