#chastity question

[denial-permanente]

Aside from how the cage fits and comfort, hygiene is very important. What does your cleaning schedule look like?

It's been a while, but here's a post I did about my hygiene routine. Note that I'm using a stainless steel cage, but it should work with most plastic cages.

[mrs--edge]

hi I have 3 questions:

1. Have you ever considered cuckolding? or have you ever been curious, even for a minute?

2. Have you noticed any change in the length of your penis and the duration of your erection? I don't mean a permanent reduction. Are you excited about the idea of making it smaller?

3. What is the longest duration without orgasm, whether whole or ruined?

You asked this at the wrong page... you probably should have been asking my husband directly or at our main page @denial-permanente

Anyway, the longest I have made my husband go without any coming at all is just over a year. Not for any particular reason, just because I felt like it. Yes, he was caged the entire time, including when I finally allowed him.

The idea of making him smaller is just weird to me. Sorry if that's you're thing. We do not measure it.

Finally, just the idea of cucking is just gross. Yes I know like half our readers seem to be fascinated with this but to me it's just not something either of us have ever thought about. I love my husband and can't imagine wanting to be with anyone else.

[that-tom-allen]

I worked my way up to wear a cage for Locktober, the longest ever for me. I was aware of it every moment other than deep sleep. Have you ever gotten to the place where for hours you don't notice it at all? And if so, is that a good thing, or do you then focus less on your Goddess?

First, understand that I have been wearing a cage for most of the past 25 years, so I have gotten used to being caged in the same sense that one doesn't notice wearing a watch or ring, or even shoes or underwear. So yes, I often "forget" that I'm caged, simply because it no longer feels unnatural.

Now, the real question: does being unaware of the cage make me less focused on @mrs--edge? I would say not. Don't forget - I live with her, so whenever I kiss her neck, or snuggle up close, I will get a momentary twitch which reminds me that I'm caged, and which, in turn, reminds me that she is my goddess and my focus in life. 😍

And really, it's perfectly okay to not think about your partner 24/7. I don't think about her when I'm shoveling snow, wiring a light switch, cutting tile, or using power tools. It's okay, she wants me to focus on keeping myself safe and healthy. I have plenty of time to focus my attentions on her after work when we are home together.

And of course, when we have intimate time, the cage is very tight, which reminds me to direct all of my attention to her and her alone. That's where it's most important.

[denial-permanente]

Hi there too both of you, this question is aimed more at tom, so how did or do you deal with the overnight hard ons? because im struggling with this over night, I wake up an its stretching my balls out ( as I have quite a large sack im told) and its very painfully while I more or less wait for it too go down, this is the only thing that's stopping me from lasting alot longer

🔏 Tom here. I hate to break it to you, but this is the kind of thing that will only work out over time as your body adapts.

Normallt I shower at night, and back when I started I used to put a lot of cream around the ring which helped with the "ball burn" feeling of my skin being stretched.

You don't mention what cage you're using, but I also found that a narrow cage would help keep erections down, unlike nub cages. That is, try a more narrow cage instead of a shorter one, because it keeps the vascular inflation to a minimum.

And while you're busy training your body, I have found that it helps to get out of bed and sit on the toilet to urinate. It doesn't stop the stretched, but it does reduce your erection.

[denial-permanente]

Tom, Given you are permanently locked, and rarely orgasm, what activities satisfy you sexually? Is it exclusively in giving your wife pleasure? Curious how this may have changed for you over the years.

🔏 Look, my desire to have an orgasm is still there; being locked has not made that go away. And even though I'm not physically inside her, I feel it when we make love. The Vixskin transmits pressure and vibration to my pubic bone, and it makes me sexually sensitive. Lovemaking is a constant battle for me as I fight to hold back according to her desire for me to only come when she allows.

That does not mean that I remain sexually frustrated, or that my desire is unabated. When we make love, my arousal - already on a low simmer - peaks after she has come a few times. Usually I manage to maintain that "high" until she taps out, which gives me a feeling of emotional satisfaction in a job well done.

But as that high ebbs, I have learned to enjoy the feeling of my body slowly coming down from Defcon 1.

So, yes: I literally feel satisfied in making my wife satisfied. I have grown out of needing an orgasm to enjoy sex.

[denial-permanente]

When you are caged how frequent is it to get aching balls? (Intended as the discomfort you get for not ejaculating and feeling excited, nothing to do with ring/cage size)

Is that discomfort part of the "experience" and you wait for it to pass, or is it to be avoided / dangerous?

And how does that change over the years?

🔏 I have a pretty healthy libido, and my wife was very attractive, so my testicles were aching constantly!

Eventually my body adapted, but even now after we'll over 25 years of being caged, my wife still manages to give me that familiar dull ache in my groin. Usually it was first thing in the morning on my way to work because I almost always wake up horny and spooning her butt. 😅

The ache is caused by vasocongestion - the blood collecting in your groin because the hormones driving your erection cause all those blood vessels to tighten up. You're sore because you have a lot of fluid in there.

Now that I'm older, and have literally been locked "permanently" for over eight years, the ache still happens but usually just in the morning or after sex (during which I'm usually not allowed orgasm, of course).

[denial-permanente]

I just read what you posted about how you came to keep Tom locked permanently and how you told that other guy about how you like that your husband is masculine and you don't want a man like he describes he is . I love these posts and what you say about the life you and Tom have . I am a very masculine man I am not a sissy and I dont want to be humiated . I just like being locked up by my wife and the feelings I have not being in control and straining against the confines of the cage .

I know that there are men like you and my husband out there, but if all you read is Tumblr then it seems like only sissy men get locked. The way I think about it, I wouldn't want anything to do with my husband sexually if he were sissy or unmanly or talked about how worthless he is.

And obviously... if someone has a fetish for that and their wife shares it, then that's great. I prefer to focus on the kind of relationship my husband and I have because it is working out very well.

[denial-permanente]

Can he at least go in on his birthday

The amount of questions I get like this remind me of how special my husband really is. I think that most of the men who write in saying how lucky he is wouldn't last a month in his position.

Birthdays and anniversaries are just days, just like Christmas or New Year's. And if I unlocked him and allowed him inside me for a holiday then every year he would just focus on that day or those days.

By keeping him locked permanently, by keeping him denied both me and his orgasms, his focus is entirely on me... where it should be.