#chiconthego

[beemelle]

President’s Day off <3 

San Diego is always warm and sunny, unfortunately even in the Winter! For us season-looking fashionistas, it means we really cant embrace, boots, tights, sweaters, scarfs and coats! BUT this Monday, the stars aligned and we got sun, wind and Cold weather!! I looked for my warmest sweater dress, high boots and a fabulous hat! Needles to say, I was in Heaven!

[abigailmac91]

💌 brownxican.mac // Soft Life & Sharp Turns

Issue #1: The Date That Took a Wild Left Turn 🚩

Hi friends, and welcome to my first storytime newsletter!

If you’re here from Instagram, you probably already saw the reel that kicked this off. If not—buckle in. Because this story went from cute and curious to cartel and blocked in less than 48 hours.

Let’s get into it.

🗓️ The Setup: Bumble Promises

I matched with a guy who seemed absolutely ideal on paper. He said he was 38, tall, funny, and shared my interest in culture and travel. He seemed super fascinated by the fact that I’m Mexican—my olive skin, my background, and the assumption that I might want to return “home” someday.

We agreed to meet halfway in Oxford (which, for me, was a bit of a mission—I’m usually a local-dates-only kind of girl), and everything felt like it had potential.

🚩 The Date: Cute… Until It Wasn’t

He greeted me with compliments and charm. Sure, he wasn’t as tall as he’d claimed, and later, I’d find out he wasn’t even the age he listed. He was actually 48—not 38. But I kept an open mind. The date itself wasn’t bad. We laughed, we talked, we connected.

That is, until he asked how many other guys I’d brought to Oxford. Not in a playful way, either. It felt like a weird insecurity pop quiz. I played it off with a joke, but something inside me started to itch.

📞 The Call That Changed Everything

The next day, after barely texting, he called me. What started as a casual chat quickly went sideways. He expressed disappointment that I didn’t want to move back to Mexico. Then—completely casually—he mentioned that some of his friends were involved with the cartel. No big deal, right? 🙃

That was the moment my gut said: this is not safe. I knew my boundaries, my ethics, and my family history (which includes a judge and government workers), and there was no way I was entertaining someone who saw that as acceptable.

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❌ The Final Red Flag

To top it all off, I later found out he’d blocked me—on WhatsApp, Instagram, everything. Why? Because I had told him I’d dated Black men before. Apparently, that was a problem for him.

So the “perfect” date unraveled into a racist, dishonest, and potentially dangerous situation.

💭 What I Learned (So You Don’t Have To)

✨ Your gut always knows.

✨ Don’t downplay red flags just to “give someone a chance.”

✨ Values aren’t negotiable.

✨ And no matter how cute someone seems—if they bring up cartels casually, run. 💨

That’s all for now.

Thanks for reading my first storytime drop. If you’ve ever been blindsided on a date—or just want to share a “what just happened?” moment—reply to this or DM me. I’d love to hear it.

Until next time,

— A. // brownxican.mac 🖤

[beemelle]

✨ M I D • W E E K • P U S H ✨you’re almost there....keep hustling! #ootd #chiconthego #home #officeoutfit (at MKBX Cottage) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvhIZRKAyP0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=19zgttgljo94

[beemelle]

M I D W E E K reminder that #valentinesday is a week away! 💕 Also, Can you believe it was my first time stepping into the @hortongrandhotel and WOW the lighting the decor 😍🙌🏼✨ #chiconthego #sandiego #hortongrandhotel (at Horton Grand Hotel) https://www.instagram.com/p/Btj2ZZvgP_d/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1es0bnxpvg9vy

[beemelle]

𝐼𝒻 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝓌𝒶𝓃𝓉 𝓉𝑜 𝒸𝑜𝓃𝓆𝓊𝑒𝓇 𝒻𝑒𝒶𝓇, 𝒹𝑜𝓃'𝓉 𝓈𝒾𝓉 𝒽𝑜𝓂𝑒 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃𝓀 𝒶𝒷𝑜𝓊𝓉 𝒾𝓉. 𝒢𝑜 𝑜𝓊𝓉 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝑔𝑒𝓉 𝒷𝓊𝓈𝓎 -𝒟𝒶𝓁𝑒 𝒞𝒶𝓇𝓃𝑒𝑔𝒾𝑒 | 2019 has been giving me all the feels. ✨ When you stop thinking about the “what if’s” and start doing them, amazing things begin to shift. Keep pushing keep moving 👊🏻 | #chiconthego #sdvoyager #ootd | check out my article in the link on my bio ☝🏻 (at Horton Grand Hotel) https://www.instagram.com/p/BtL_KucgUy0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1qoxx8zk2n98s

[beemelle]

Reasons why I stay sick ... tomorrow’s forecast is 10 degrees higher than today 😬🤦🏽‍♀️ | welcoming in the warmth after these rainy days ☀️ #ootd #chiconthego #sdstylebloggers #downtownsandiego (at Spreckels Theater Building) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bsy82XZADI1/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1jn4v2xk0v8de

[beemelle]

Walking into this week like a boss! #bosslady #ootd #sdstylebloggers #chiconthego #fringe #sheingals (at Horton Grand Hotel) https://www.instagram.com/p/BsoQnn1gf59/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=llyp1ynsjiyj

[beemelle]

The look you make when you see your 2 0 1 9 getting brighter ✨ | #chiconthego #sdstylebloggers #downtownsandiego (at Downtown San Diego) https://www.instagram.com/p/BsjHVX0g7lA/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1xqops2zclzsx