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J2: parenthood, the children, and all that jazz!
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Okay, so I LOVE talking about the kids and doing J2-Daddies posts, 🥰 but I don’t think I’ve really shared many of my in-depth thoughts on what I personally believe is involved in the care of those children/the dynamic(s)/what is known when and by whom/various routines/etc., and it’s a very very important thing to talk about!
I’ll start with some of the basics, one of those basics being the fact that Jared and Jensen both very much wanted to have children, and I have no doubt that future children and parenthood plans were huge parts of their initial contracts with Gen and Dan.
I think that some of those contract specifics may have been overstepped since then...like the number of children at least in Jensen’s case, something he’s hinted at a few times by sharing the fact that he originally only ever planned on/wanted a single child, two at the most. He even used the word “contract” at one point (Pitt-17) while discussing the topic publicly with Jared (they both did actually). Jensen mentioned very briefly that the contract had been too loose and hadn’t held enough water, and his comment was in response to Jared having said that he (Jensen) needed to be more specific in these kinds of verbal contracts with Danneel, like for example “two total, not two more.”
*want a link to my post about the “contract” slips? Message me!*
Regardless of that, however, both Jared and Jensen clearly love being parents, and they are wonderful parents!
I’m SO glad that their dream of one day being daddies-
(on goals/hopes, things not yet accomplished, the below GIF)
-has now been so thoroughly actualized!
The next logical thing to talk about I suppose would be my thoughts on whose children are whose and how all of that works.
I do think that the Js technically live in their own houses, separately and with their respective children and ‘wives’ (fauxmance partners/co-parents), but we know that they’re together as much as they possibly can be, which is a lot even as far as the public is aware and much more than that in reality for sure, and I think that, depending on what’s going on/circumstances/etc., they spend stretches of time varying in length and frequency together in one house.
Take, for example, this comment by Jensen when asked if he and Danneel share household chores (nola-17)-
“It is split up. When we’re not there, she handles it. When we come home, she’s like ‘here’s the keys to everything.’”
The ‘we’ there was in reference to himself and Jared, and the implication seemed to be that he and Jared are together in one house at least some of the time and moreover that they’re given some time and space for just the two of them (and the kids) when they’re home.
I believe that Jensen and Jared each fathered their own three children, yes, but it’s also VERY evident that they love and care for all the kids as their own and that they very much take on the role of a parent not just with their three but with all six.
Let’s look at some dimension-lending examples that support this theory, although it’s really not needed since the Js have pretty much verbally confirmed the one-family-love to be true.
Just for fun, though-
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Tom: “Hi, Dad!”
Jared & Jensen simultaneously: “Hi Tom!” (Vancon-14)
Jared: “We didn’t get to see our family last week. But that being said, our kids get to see their parents doing something that they love.” (Houscon-17)
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Jensen: “The hits just keep coming with six kids!”
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^ almost correct! But actually he was just being a dad with his kids, not babysitting 😊.
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Jensen: [Jared] wasn’t there, so I was watching the kids.”
^ See what I mean? A separate occasion, by the way.
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Jared: “[Shep] and Jensen had a special bond from day one.” (PHXcon-16)
*Jensen pats his heart during a conversation about Shep*
Jared: “They’re kindred spirits.”
Jared (about JJ, m&g): “I love how her face lights up when I pick her up from school. She’s wrapped around my finger.”
Jared (about Arrow’s beautiful long eyelashes): “She’s like a Disney princess!”
Jared (about JJ): “She plays [Jensen] like a fiddle!”
Jared: “Tom said a word in music class that started with an ‘f’ and ended with an ‘uck.’”
Jensen: “Wonder where he heard that? *pauses for a second* Me. ”
Jensen (to Jared): “Don’t worry about getting too old. We are raising the next generation of hunters.”
Jared: “The boys have started to ask where babies come from. I try to distract them. I’m like ‘look a raccoon!’”
Jensen: “No you don’t! You send them to me!” (NJcon-18)
Jensen: “I’ve already had the talk with Shep.”
Jensen: “I get a text message from [Jared]. And he’s like ‘hey, I need you to send Tom a video.’ So I sit down and make a little video to Tom and send it to him.”
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As far as what Jared’s kids call Jensen and vice versa, ‘uncle’ seems to be what was chosen right from the start, which makes sense.
Some ‘Uncle Jared & Uncle Jensen’ examples:
Jared (about his boys): “They call Jensen ‘Uncle Jensen.’”
Continued in the first following image-
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Jensen: “Instead of saying ‘stop,’ she says ‘go away.’ (...) She got it from Uncle Jared.”
Jared: “Aww, I miss JJ.” (Asylum-16)
Jensen: “Uncle Jensen is trying to get some work done out here.” (Chicon-12)
Tom: “Uncle Jensen.”
Jensen: “I hear you, big guy! I hear you!”
Jared (mimicking Tom when he was missing Jensen): “Uncle Jensen-Uncle Jensen-Uncle Jensen-Uncle Jensen!” (Jib-14)
Tom: “I love you Unca’ Jensen!”
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We can only vaguely speculate about what the kids will know and when concerning their parents’ arrangement, if that even is part of the future plan which it very well might not be.
But my guess is that when they reach a certain age, each child will be told at a minimum that Jared and Jensen share a beyond-platonic intimacy (even if it’s kept very vague), because the alternative for the Js is never being able to exist openly with each other even privately with just their family.
And surely as time passes, the kids will pick up on more and more about the full truth, plus they’ll likely be given additional information as they get older (that’s IF they’re not told outright at some point).
And of course we don’t know if there’s any intention of coming out publicly some day or if there’s the hope of coming out publicly some day should circumstances allow for it, but that’s an entirely different matter and would probably involve the decision to have Gen and Dan deny any prior knowledge of the Js relationship (in fact the non-platonic aspect of the Js relationship would likely be presented as something that had unfolded between Jared and Jensen not long before telling the public about it).
Just a side note that popped into my head-
In a collection of written interviews I found from the late 90’s that were conducted with anonymous closeted celebrities, a fairly common answer to one of the questions (about coming out) was that if it were to happen, it would happen after retirement from the industry.
It was heartbreaking to read, however, that the majority of the interviewees felt they would never have the option, realistically speaking, of coming out, at least not while still being able to protect their livelihoods.
I’m getting off topic here.
Although I do want to get into the above a lot more thoroughly in another post.
But for now...back to the kids!
Let’s touch on some more parenting details.
To expand a bit on what I said about Jared and Jensen being the fathers of each of their three respective kids but at the same time caring for all six with a parent’s love and dedication (and AS parent figures in the eyes of all six), I think the same basic principle applies to Gen and Dan.
I don’t think they are as involved in the daily lives of each other’s children as much as Jared and Jensen are (meaning Gen with Jen+Dan’s kids and Dan with Jar+Gen’s kids), but certainly they are to at least a somewhat-regular degree due to Jared and Jensen and therefore the inherent interconnectedness of both families.
And regardless of how I feel about either Gen or Dan personally, regardless of how you feel, they are two of the four parents of six beautiful children, and whatever happens between the Js, whatever happens between Jen and Dan or Jared and Gen, just whatever happens...these four human beings will always be connected through their children at the very least, and that is why there is nothing but good will toward all of them in my heart.
I say that with complete and genuine honesty. I really do.
Alright...
I am too sleepy to carry on. The rest will have to wait for a part two.
But I will conclude things by adding these precious, wonderful photos for you to ‘cute’ over! 😊💕
