I had a client who had a little brother born a year after him. He felt like his status as 'the baby of the family' was taken from him. That he never really got the attention & care he needed in his early years. The emotion that was blocked came out as sympathy. Often when sympathy is blocked I check in for which way the pendulum has swung on sympathy. Do they constantly desire it from others, or hate the thought of receiving it? Desiring sympathy. If I'm constantly in a state of 'give me sympathy, I deserve it.' It results in a perpetual victim story about myself being hard-done-by. 'The universe is against me.' It's the shadow: 'I'm afraid that I'm powerless to change my life because I was never given... (Insert blank).' - (Love, affection, safety, space to speak my truth, etc). If I have that desire in a relationship, I will always make my partner the enemy. Because there's something that they're not giving me enough of... Praise, attention, physical touch, gifts, sex, freedom. & then suddenly my partner represents my parent to me on some layers, & the resentment that I carry for Mum gets switched over to my partner. Can you all see how doing this internal work & clearing emotional blocks is fucking important so that we can show up fully in our adult lives? What didn't your parents give you? Feel into that. Because there's something. What didn't they give you that you resent them for? And is it playing out in your relationships? 📸 Photo: @matthewawatkins 📷 #TheWork #ShadowWork #CircleUp #TheSpiral #EmotionalBlocks #EmotionalClearing #PersonalDevelopment #Evolution #InnerChild (at Harwood Bridge) https://www.instagram.com/p/B6m3TDnnPs0/?igshid=o5aa8h3idax1
