#cis?

[whoopsie-do0dles]

The urge to look like the hottest guy

The urge to look like the hottest girl

The urge to look like a hot enby

The urge to be comfortable yet hot

Gender is very complicated

[pixel3603]

Me: finally comfortable with my sexuality

My gender:

[stephrc79]

Steph I have been meaning to message you over an adult like thing, so a couple of weeks ago I was in a class learning about third wave of feminism and how the idea of gender is constructed. And the situation was brought up that you are with someone and you start to date the person, and you decide to have sex. You get into bed and discover that the sex they present doesn't match the genital and I was like that would be fine. But my classmates were like ??? is there something wrong am i wrong?

I think you’re both right, actually.

See, in your case, can I make an inference that you’re pansexual? If that’s the case, one can also assume that you genuinely don’t care either way what genitalia you’ll be taking to bed. You’re all about the person, so it doesn’t matter.

But the thing is, it does matter to some people. For example, it matters to me. I’m bisexual, and depending on who I take home, I have chosen to have a sexual experience with that gender. If I take a woman home, I want and expect the person to have female genitalia. And the same goes for men. I guess the best way to look at it, I prefer to go to bed with someone who is either cis or fully transitioned. 

Now, do I think that that makes someone who is transitioning any less male or female? Of-fucking-course not. But I have expectations going into it, and if my bed partner does not inform me, then I may be expecting to have sexual relations with a woman - and all that comes with that - only to find out, when we’re already heading into the sexual act, that I will in fact be dealing with a penis and not a vagina. 

Here’s where it gets tricky. It’s wholly digusting to ask someone what’s going on between their legs. I will never get over all those journalists who think it’s a valid question when discussing someone’s transition (you all know what I’m talking about). But, at the same time, when it comes to consensual sex, a person still has the right to be fully informed going into it. As a trans person, you in no way should ever have to talk about how far into transition you are, except, I think, in this case. Sex is private and personal, and a place where people are 100% allowed to have a preference when it comes to gender and sexuality. You don’t get to take that away from them because you feel like you shouldn’t have to tell them that you have either a penis or vagina. 

I guess what I’m saying is, you are totally okay in being happy either way. I wish there were more people like you in the world, because it would also make trans people more comfortable. But, at the same time, I will never hold it against someone for being upset that they were not fully informed about their partner until they were already in a vulnerable position.

[rouyeming32]

My goal is to make every tumblr as confused about my gender as I am

[lesbianisam]

tboy friend told me i had tboy swag..

[atlas-with-a-marimba]

I've been on my new meds and off my old ones for about a month now, and my identity crisis is just...gone? I don't feel as bad about being born female, and I would actually go to a band concert in a dress instead of a dress shirt and tie. I appreciate my long hair more, but I still think short hair would be a good look on me. I still like that my band jacket hides my chest. I still like how my hair appears short from the front when pulled back. The one who sped up the crisis I had during the band season still gives me that longing vibe, but not as hard as it was. I lowkey miss that feeling, and I was right about a conclusion I came to in around September about a song--if your source of, let's just say sadness for simplicity and translation's sake, disappears, your identity could crumble because you dwelled in your sadness and sorta became it, and the process of your identity being shattered is worse than the sadnsss itself, and that's why the молчат дома song "тоска" says "почему так хорошо? (Why so good)?" The one negative feeling is holding you together and preventing the worse negative feeling from taking hold and absolutely destroying you. My source of longing to be a male has disappeared (probably with me going off my old meds, but two variables changed at the same time so idk), and now I don't know who I am. Does anyone here have advice on regarding my rant ?

[ervineferrum]

Please stop asking what i am.

I don't know either.