the thing that frustrates me the most about that stupid “cishet bf at pride” discourse that went on last month (besides the obvious) is how many people thought they were Making a Point by being like “well what if he’s actually bi/pan/ace/trans/etc.” that’s actually not the point at all! he could be a 1000% cishet perisex person and that’s fine. if you feel uncomfortable with someone else simply because of their identity and not their actual words or actions, that’s a You problem. that can be unresolved trauma or a result of years of fearmongering and an “us vs. them” mentality. why does anyone have to “prove” their queerness to you. who are you to decide whether someone belongs at a public event or not. cishet bf at pride? that’s great! i hope he has fun! that’s one more ally. one more person who will be fighting for us. how could there possibly be anything wrong with that.
