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Claim Exam | Sage Aubri

Status: Approved, Completed.

Name: Sage Aubri

Designation: Submissive

Residency Status: Participant

Claim Partner: Alexander “X” Pyrrim

Exam Answers:

Aftercare with X has always been amazing, even from the beginning.  It always includes a lot of cuddling and praise, and usually accompanied by a bath together.  There are few things that make me feel closer to him than coming out of subspace from a scene and having him there to comfort and take care of me.  I’ve never felt as if he does too much or too little, or that there’s anything that he could honestly improve on.  It’s perfect and everything that I need, and considering all the care and affection he has always showed for me, even before we were together, I can’t ever see it degrading over time.  If anything, if it were even possible, it’d even get better.  I’ve experienced drop in the past (though it’s been months since I’ve experienced it, and it was never due to lack of aftercare), so I know how important aftercare is, as does he.  Every care to avoid it is always made and I have every confidence that it always will be.

Writing our rules was a bit difficult, because X and I have never really had a standard D/s relationship anywhere outside of the bedroom.  We’ve always been equals and partners and our rules reflect that.  To me, our promises mean more - rigidity has never been either of our strong suits and the promises come from the heart.  I don’t believe many punishments will result from our rules, and I definitely don’t believe any promises will ever be broken because I do believe in the sincerity of them.  We’ve had a long, hard road to get here, to be able to put these words and emotions down onto paper.  They mean more than anything.  As far as our documentation and relevance to the future - I believe they all will have relevance.  Communication is important daily, and working together as our rules speak of.  They’re things to be followed daily, and I have no doubt that we both will.

I have always felt nothing but safe with X.  He’s always taken care of me from day one and shown me nothing but patience and understanding.  Even the one or two verbal spats we’ve had, it’s usually sprung from misunderstanding or miscommunication, and no lines were ever crossed in those times that it happened.  No aggression, both physically or verbally, has ever occurred without consent.  X takes care of me, and I him.  He’s always respected my limits and I his, and neither ever felt obligated to do anything.  And in the times I’ve had to safeword, I’ve never felt guilty, or been made to feel guilty for it.  My state of mind has always been at the forefront of X’s concern.  No punishments have ever been earned in our relationship, and I know that X would never punish me for using one, ever.

There are times that I do hesitate to talk to X about things, but it’s my own issues, not his.  And it’s something that we’re working on together, for me to know that the concerns I have aren’t selfish to voice, that his priority is in me and if I’m concerned, he has no issues talking to me about them.  As far as anyone other than my partner, I have many.  Namely my brother, Hawthorn, and my best friend, Wes.  I don’t foresee any sort of break in our claim, but if there was one, I know I’d still have love and support behind it and that I wouldn’t be alone.

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Claim Exam | Mala Singh

Status: Approved, Completed.

Name: Mala Singh

Designation: Submissive

Residency Status: Participant

Claim Partner: Peter Abramsen

Exam Answers:

The most useful aftercare that I receive is being held. Sir is always good at holding me and talking about the scene that we just did. The last time I was given aftercare, I didn’t drop before or during aftercare. It was not a particularly taxing scene and my Sir is always good about checking in with me during. Aftercare is important to me, important to both of us, because it reminds me of my place in Sir’s heart. Even if it is a more strenuous scene or I’m being tortured, I know that after, when I am in his arms and he is telling me how much he loves me and how good I am, that his words are true.

The promises that Sir and I made in our claim documents are more important to me than rules. I’ve always been one who was good at following the rules, always one who wanted to be a good girl and obey the rules. Anyone can have rules though. Orenda has rules that it places on its participants for our own protection, there could be rules to a certain scene, if you were to play scenes with another Dom, but the promises that are made in those claim documents mean more than just a list of things that you have to follow. They are from the heart and it is more about being reflective and keeping yourself in check and in doing those things, in loving your partner completely and showing them that love, because you want to and not necessarily because there will be a punishment if you break a rule. As far as the rules are concerned, the hardest ones for me to keep are the rules regarding my own mental and physical well-being. These are the rules that will most likely receive punishments the most. I don’t see the rules being broken often, especially having a daughter whose well-being I am looking after as well will encourage me to take care of myself.  I don’t plan or foresee myself breaking any of my promises because I know how true they ring in my very soul. I believe the same for Sir, but I know that no matter what, I can always talk to him if I feel like promises are being neglected or broken.

I first want to say that I feel completely safe in my claim. I do not believe that Sir would ever hurt me. We recently had an incident where he was angry and his anger scared me, but we talked about it and I know from past experiences that when something is brought to my Sir’s attention, he does his best to never repeat those same mistakes. He has never directly been aggressive or hostile towards me and I do not believe that he would ever coerce me into doing something I didn’t want to do, nor would he make me feel guilty for using a safe word and knowing my limits. That being said, if something was to change and my Sir began to abuse me, I would get help. I’ve had instances in the past where Doms weren’t that nice to me and hurt me, whether physically or mentally, and I didn’t speak up and it really messed me up, so I know the dangers of not speaking up. If we were still at Orenda, I would alert Master Stroud of what was going on and break claim, and if we weren’t, then I would alert the proper authorities.

There was a time when I didn’t feel I could voice concerns. I didn’t want to be a bad submissive and upset my Sir. Being with Peter has shown me that I should never be afraid to voice any concerns with him because otherwise he won’t know what is wrong and how to make it better. If something were to happen that would be a potential opportunity for a break in claim, I would first want us to see if we could work things out, getting couples counseling. If that weren’t the case, I would still go and seek counseling myself. I have a really great support system outside of my Sir and I know that I could go to any of them to talk about things going on in my relationship.