1/30/26: punk rock white bitch + boujie corporate black girl
Field report: Friday night. Dance floor game at MJQ. Two big dance + kino + convo sets, one very sexual set with a punk rock fashion designer hot white girl with 26k IG followers. One gentle and calibrated set with a very shy boujie corporate Black girl.
Been reflecting on LX's advice; he said I might be struggling with retention because of my character/persona I fall into. So tonight I switched it up, found the missing ingredients to break my character. It's a combination of my grounded vibration with being an active listener who has curiosity. That also builds on top of advice that Chris Turley gave me at Freetour. I listened to AI summaries of "How to win friends and influence people" and "Difficult Conversations" today. Those books reminded me how to be a great listener. So tonight I brought that grounded curiosity for other people, and it was very effective.
Opened a punk rocker white chick. She was soooo hot and she kept qualifying to me. I felt up her whole body, and we stared into each other's eyes. She kept on being flighty, and I would dance trance myself back up into the shiny object, and do more approaches and talk to other girls, and then she would return. In our first interaction, I opened her verbally on the dance floor, complimenting her style, we started conversating, we started dancing, I opened her friends, she qualified to me by dancing her big moves. We danced together, some salsa, I spun her around. We were intimate, I kissed her neck. We fell into a bit of a lull, doing the same thing over and over for too long. She got bored and left.
Then I danced tranced, approached other girls, had fun, and found her again, she was with a guy, I opened the two-set. She was like "omg you're still here!" happy to see me. Met the guy, they're old friends. A girl joined and engaged my target, so I engaged the guy. He was a big fan. She was deep in conversation, and me and this guy talked for so long. I was like, "Okay, let me approach other girls and let her see." Usually for me, when that goes well, the girl just shows up back in my face again and steals me back. So I had a few brief sets, one of them hooked, but when I started qualifying, she said "I like girls". I said okay, cool and kept talking and trying to pump verbal state. But she dipped, my energy or verbals must have been off. Frolicked around the club and state pumped solo and with the random guys who show up alone every time, and found my punk rocker chick again. Opened. She was excited to see me again. This time we danced together very sexual. My hands stroking all over her body. She was gazing into my eyes deeply. We were on the cusp of kissing. I kissed her neck. So much intimate tension in between our faces. She was gazing into my eyes, hypnotized. She really, really liked me. It boosted my ego but in hindsight, I wasn't letting myself go to the connection. I was kinda bored actually. But I was slowly building our tension, stroking her whole body, kissing her neck, and then I smacked her ass. Within 10 seconds of me smacking her ass, she left. I guess that was a mess up on my part. Broke the emotional intimacy of the moment. I should have kissed her instead of smacking her ass. Oops lol. I won't do that again in that situation I guess.
Continued opening, found a bougie corporate black girl who was fully solo. With this girl I was very tender, conversational, showed a lot of curiosity in her mind. I was very graceful with her, escalated so slowly. Many, many guys approached her and I just let them do it and kept on dancing and watched. I let her do her thing and make her decision. One guy got aggressive and she was clearly uncomfortable so I stepped in and was like, chill bro. He looked at me like he was about to fight me for a second and then he finally walked away. He seemed like he was crazy drunk. Something like that happened again later and I blocked the guy out. She was grateful and opened up to me about it. She said guys here are grabby.
I kept dancing with this bougie corporate girl, slowly escalating. We had a little flash of sexual dancing. She's wearing this tight, skin tight dress, very bougie and shy, making very small dance movements, but also very flighty. After my successful pulse of escalation, I should have backed off and let it breathe, but instead I went back in escalating too soon, a mistake. Then I felt like the vibes in our space were off, so I made a motion for us to move together, and she did not follow me. She kept dancing in place. That made me think that in that moment I'd escalated too fast. So I stayed two feet away from her, and kept on dancing. We were both looking in the same direction, standing next to each other. After a while, I reopened to the conversation, with a casual random friendly question, and we were back in set. And then the punk rocker chick from earlier appears nearby us, she's making out with some dude (the creepy drunk guy from earlier??) very passionately. Damn! He stole the arousal I generated in her. She was way hotter than the girl I was with, damn lol. I turned my back to them and focused on my target, and in the process of me doing that, suddenly my target's attraction for me spiked and she started twirling her hair. Lmfao.
Club closed, walked her out, convo with sweet connection and teasing + DHVs, tried to pull, she had already called her Uber, I future-projected a date, she found her Uber, she turned back and motioned for me to hug her goodbye. I made the mistake of saying "follow me back on IG and I'll DM you about going to that spot." It sounded needy, a bad goodbye. Cool, I'm learning a lot.
Fun night, love this city 1000000000/10
update 2/16/26: ended up pulling the boujie corporate girl from a date last night, she slept over. didnt fuck, but we made out for 3 hours it was great. got her down to her panties. i shouldve rubbed her pussy quicker, i spent way too long teasing her inner thighs. she wasnt horny enough when i started going down on her and she stopped me. so i pulled back and chilled. but by then it was late and soon she fell asleep. good time tho
it felt like a fool's mate tbh. from the first second of the date she was tipsy and giving me bambi eyes. she was in scarcity from a lonely valentine's day. within 30 minutes she said "do u live nearby here?" but i didnt pull until an hour and a half or so later. and her pussy was fully shaved. she 100% knew she wanted to fuck. i could have gone much faster i guess. lol