Hi, I'm starting college in a week and I'm really worried. I will be out of my house at 7am and back at 10-11pm (because of distance) so I won't see my family except in the weekends. I'll basically spend the day there. What if I don't make friends? I don't know if I'll be able to handle being on my own that much time. Any advice?
I am so so sorry that this took me so long; my computer died right when I got to school and it’s been a bit ridiculous ever since. I genuinely hope the start to your semester went well and that you have no need for my advice any more. But if you’re still looking for some guidance, I have a few suggestions.
Making friends can be absolutely nerve-wracking, and the easiest way I’ve found to do so is getting involved with on-campus clubs and activities if at all possible. You’re already spending so much time there, and this will help you connect with others outside of an academic setting and foster your own interests. Most clubs put a huge emphasis on fostering community and relationships, so even early on I’m sure there will be plenty of people willing to grab lunch or study with you for a few hours. People in your classes, especially fellow first-years, will also be eager to make friends so don’t be afraid to reach out and ask if they want to hang out.
My other biggest suggestion, if you haven’t already, is to see what resources your school has for commuting students. Maybe there’s a lounge specifically for students like you to meet and mingle between classes. Otherwise, the student center or an on-campus cafe might be a great place to meet people or otherwise feel less isolated during the days you spend on campus. Give yourself some time and you will definitely find people and community that work for you.
Best of luck with your semester and let me know if there’s anything else I can help you with!
















