#complex genders

[nonbinarymlm]

Discussions of trans and nonbinary people in the context of gendered spaces and discussions can be complex. It’s generally good to err on the side of inclusion, autonomy of any specific people involved, and assuming good faith from people who seem to be actively trying to do the right thing by trans and nonbinary people.

This affects all trans people, but especially nonbinary people, coming out as nonbinary can mean facing an auto-exclusion from all gendered spaces when gendered spaces make up so much of society. People who try to push nonbinary people out of “man” or “woman” spaces can be well intentioned, but can also end up contributing to the stigma and isolation of coming out as nonbinary.

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for systems with complex gender identities!

Being a system member can often come with confusing, complex, or conflicting relationships with gender. Many systems and headmates they find that traditional or binary gender options simply do not work for them, and that’s okay! This post is for all the plurals and headmates out there with complex or complicated gender identities!

🐠 Shoutout to systems who collectively identify as all of the genders of their individual headmates!

🌊 Shoutout to systems and headmates who are transfemmasc, transfemneumasc, are bigender, or are otherwise both masculine and feminine at the same time!

🐡 Shoutout to systems and headmates who are xenogender and/or use neopronouns!

🏝 Shoutout to systems and headmates who have difficulties articulating or accurately expressing their gender identities!

🦀 Shoutout to systems and headmates who collect or hoard genders and/or pronouns!

☀️ Shoutout to intersex systems, whether cis or trans, who have complicated or complex gender identities!

🦈 Shoutout to systems and headmates who have coined their own terms and labels to best describe their gender identities!

🏖 Shoutout to systems and headmates whose gender identities align with aesthetics, objects, concepts, animals, characters, or other things that may be considered unorthodox!

🐟 Shoutout to systems and headmates who are questioning, unsure, or who are still trying to figure out their gender identities!

There is no one right way to express or experience gender, and this is especially true for systems of all sorts! It’s okay to have a gender identity that is messy, conflicting, or complicated. You’re not wrong or bad for experiencing gender in the way that you do!

We hope that every system out there with unique or complex gender identities can come to accept themselves as they are and embrace their experiences with gender! Know that we will always support and believe you, and your perspectives on gender provide some welcome diversity to the plural community. Thanks so much for reading, and have a great day!