#loving queue

[micro-bi-ologist]

I can easily imagine a forever with you

[goingtobed]

smooth hairless skinny bodies being the ideal is just another product of pedophilia culture tbh.

You're an adult. You should be hairy and hefty, gain some weight, get some muscle, stop shaving out of habit.

Terfs/radfems dont touch. Trans women are allowed to be hairy too, they dont need to be hyper feminine to be women.

[you-stole-my-heart]

per·fec·tion

/pərˈfekSH(ə)n/

noun

the state or quality of being or becoming perfection

you

[nonbinarymlm]

We need to bring back the term “benevolent sexism” into widespread use for real. It’s a major mechanism in how bioessentialist Girlboss Radfems can be turned into bioessentialist conservative Tradwives.

[nonbinarymlm]

It’s so fucking funny when you describe specific examples of transandrophobia and someone’s like “you just described a bunch of sexism!” Or “you just described transphobia!” Like yes. Duh.

Transandrophobia is a term to discuss the specific ways sexism and transphobia affects transmasculine people. Like yes. It’s a type of transphobia informed by sexism. Yes.

It’s like one of those SpongeBob sketches. The lid, Patrick. The lid.

[nonbinarymlm]

Pro-tip: you will, at some point in your life, come across some queer or trans person who is awful / negative about your identity/demographic. That is wrong, and it sucks, and you have every right to argue with that person.

You have to remember, though, that this does not give you the right to generalize or lash out at everyone who shares that person’s identity. This is a situation where doing that is literally stooping to their level and becoming as bad as they are. You will be carelessly risking harm to completely innocent, unrelated marginalized people, just like whoever you’re taking issue with is harming you.

[nonbinarymlm]

I love T gel! I love how quickly it dries I love how tough and manly the alcohol smell makes me feel this is a T gel appreciation post

[nonbinarymlm]

As a genderfaun person whose fluidity leans masculine (I often describe myself as a genderfluid trans man), the rhetoric of “trans men are men and therefore have male privilege” bothers me so much.

I’m a binary man sometimes. I’m nonbinary other times. I’m often a genderqueer man. When I’m a man, I’m sincerely a man. By the logic of “trans men are men and therefore have male privilege”, I must be bobbing back and forth between having male privilege and not! I’ll have male privilege when I feel like a man and then *poof* it disappears when I’m feeling more unaligned nonbinary.

Except this doesn’t fit with my experiences at all. This isn’t how it works. Being a man doesn’t automatically give me male privilege that I’ll then lose in a moment by no longer being a man.

Personal gender identity isn’t the source of privilege. Privilege is not solely determined by who you are inside, it’s determined by society and how it interacts with you. You can only get male privilege if you are societally recognized as a man, it’s a prerequisite, which is just not true for the vast majority of trans men. Also like this reasoning doesn’t account for nonbinary or genderfluid people at all. Male privilege is a really complex and individual topic when it comes to trans people especially,