hey so this one is a pretty long one..
i have a gf, i love them of course i do...but i dont think they think we're dating. see, we are also best friends and i think they think we're still best friends, not like how i think we're romantically involved. i asked them if we could start dating and they did say yes, but maybe they're rethinking it? they dont ever admit that we're dating in front of other people, though. we dont do "couple-y" things, like kissing or stuff. we hold hands, but i also hold hands with my other friends.
but i have this other best friend. she's funny, smart and it feels like we're in a relationship more than me and and my actual girlfriend. we go out together more, we spend more time together and im confused. i feel more in love with her than i do with my actual girlfriend, as ashamed as im to admit it.
i've tried to approach the topic with my girlfriend, but they always avoid the topic or change the topic.
what do you think i should do?
Okay, I think you need to sit your girlfriend down and insist on a conversation. I also think it might be a good idea to just be friends with them right now. It's up to you, but It seems like you're a bit confused on your feelings for them and your other friend, and until you figure them out, it might be best to just be friends with them, to avoid hurting more feelings in the future.
Sit them down and say "hey, I feel like we're not really doing well with dating. Can we take a step back and continue to be friends? I love our friendship and I would hate to ruin it by putting pressure to be something more when that doesn't seem to be working right now"
See how they react! I do want to ask though- could it be that you have feelings for this other friend because you feel neglected by your current girlfriend?
No matter what you need to figure out what's going on between you and your girlfriend before anything else. Communication is so important in a relationship, so it's time to practice that.
naming you confused anon!
