(via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XVMvQhxN_M8)
What you wrote does not mean you are not ENFP. It means you have a high degree of agreeableness (and you might also have Enneagram 2 traits).
For what it’s worth, I identified with a lot of what you said -- I have the dual curse of being High in Conscientiousness (so I judge people based on their work ethic / output) but also in Agreeableness (so I never berate / come down for it on them and accept their excuses, while being angry about it in private).
Original ask:
YOU PROBABLY WANT TO GAG ME BECAUSE I WON'T STOP COMING UP IN YOUR INBOX
I am sorry to bother you again. I feel like I reach out to you every other week because I doubt my type. :(
(Charity says: ... as is typical for Ne-doms. ;)
I contacted you quite a bit and you always say I’m ENFP with a poor understanding of Fi. This is probably true. But then is it uncommon for me sometimes being hyper obsessed with taking care of and being accommodating people?
I often take leadership roles at my job even though I do not want them because I am helping people even if they don’t ask for help. I am always in check with what people need. It’s like I have a radar to pick it up and I literally go out of my way to help them. I see they need some help on my own terms and I think to myself “gee they can really use a hand.” Then, I go out of my way sometimes to organize people to make sure these people get what they need.
The other day, I used hours of my weekend helping a colleague perfect a project for work because I knew they needed it. Hey, I do this even if I do not like the person. Even if they were super rude to me a week prior. And it makes me feel like poop later. I kind of want to kick myself. My husband just recently told me, “Why are you helping this person if they are always so rude to you?” And I said to him that I do not know. Still convinced he loves me for it, though. But it’s certainly a defining trait. It’s kind of like I become a trust sidekick so often and then I want to kick myself in the side for doing it!!! :DDD
I hate being like that because people can take advantage of me. Not of my kindness but well, treat me like crap and I’m still like “they need some help, let me jump in here and make them get what they need… maybe they are not so bad after all.” Even though THEY ARE and THEY DO NOT RESPECT ME. I mean, most do. Most people love me and it gets me in trouble because then my job gives me so much more to do. “My job has that weird thing that if you do your job good, you get to do EVERYONE ELSE’S.” Sometimes I feel like a dumbass for that but it makes me think if a Feeling preference even exceeds my Intuition preference. It’s like innate in me. I cannot stop looking around and checking in with people. It’s like breathing to me…
And again I’m the first to say if someone is acting rude. I am very perceptive in how people feel or what a person’s motive is. But are ENFPs even concerned about such things? I roll my eyes a lot and say later, in confidence to my husband “I do not like that person because they are so rude to other people…” Hmmmm….
Maybe it’s because the Feeling is auxiliary so I’m still so checked in to that preference???
