I want to talk about consensus decision-making for a moment. (This is going to be a long post, and it is political.)
This is a thing the Quakers developed, that subsequently spread out to some radical groups. It’s a way of making decisions. You need everyone to agree, or depending on your approach at least not disagree too strenuously. But there’s a lot more to it than that makes it sound.
Because it’s really more like taking the process an individual uses to make a decision, and using that process as a collective. Let me explain.
You know the expression “being of two minds” about something? Often people don’t feel just one way about things. I’m thinking about the US presidential election here, so I’m going to use that as an example: many people could run up a pro/con list on voting Biden and there’d be items in each column, OK? Can we acknowledge that?
Many people voting for Biden have reservations. Most likely, many people not voting for Biden (on leftist grounds, although this probably also applies to Trump voters) have some conflicted thoughts feelings about this whether they show it or not. This is just how people are. Some people make a decision and never think twice about it, others second guess things a lot.
(In a Quaker meeting for business, this might look like “should we open a soup kitchen to support homeless people in our neighborhood” or some such. (In the case I’m thinking of, they ended up doing a food pantry instead.) In an activist group, this might look like, “are we willing to do this direct action that involves wrecking property?” In a shared meals situation, this might look like “do we have a single food budget for shared meals, or do we separate things out so the vegetarians don’t have to pay for meat and the meat eaters don’t pay for tofu?” (We eventually decided on a single budget, but it took way longer than it probably needed to. Oddly enough, most people were concerned that someone else would think it was unfair but they personally were fine with it.)
Consensus decision-making means rather than you personally making up your mind as an individual, and then arguing for your conclusion, you see what comes up. You can air thoughts both for and against the proposed action. So can everyone else. Maybe someone has a way of modifying the proposal to make it acceptable to everyone. Maybe the proposal gets shot down but in the discussion process someone comes up with an idea for a good alternative.
It’s putting the focus on process, rather than outcome.
There’s some downsides to this approach. For one, the meetings can go on really long. For another, people who aren’t used to doing things this way, well, it can be an awkward transition, since it is very different from the more common majority-rules voting. It requires being willing to be vulnerable and trust and assume good intent of the people you’re making decisions with. It is hard to scale up.
Anyways. I’m thinking of the US presidential election. And I’m thinking about how some people seem to be acting like we all have to hold our breaths and not breathe a word of criticism about Biden or skepticism about the value of voting, or else. And that moreover, the way to get people to not criticize Biden or voting is this really confrontational “you’re wrong and you’re a bad person” approach, which wow is really not how people work at all (have you met any people?)
It is possible to get people with very strong moral convictions who understand the stakes, to all sit down together and listen to what everyone else has to say, without judgement or blame, and come out on the other side all agreeing to a course of action. Shutting down disagreement doesn’t get you there. Allowing disagreement does.
...and yeah, obviously we don’t elect the president by consensus. But, I think the underlying idea is still relevant. It is not fundamentally dangerous to let people express different viewpoints. Even if you believe that acting in the way they’re suggesting would be very harmful. Does that make sense?
It is certainly not fundamentally dangerous to try to understand where someone else is coming from. Even if you think their conclusions are harmful.