Anon Advice Asks - September 13
yearning anon, teen angst anon, ted talk anon (new), convince anon, fearless anon
yearning anon
Hi Cas! Thank you so much for the kind words in the last ask, I really appreciate it!
Also, I wish I was a pirate. Like, not a historically accurate pirate.
I just wish the world was so different. I wish communities were a thing, and you go into the market with a pouch of gold coins, not because technology is rudimentary but because people prefer to use gold coins to keep in touch with nature.
I wish buildings had genuinely beautiful architecture and not just “modern homes” that have no real chutzpah (no offense to anyone with a modern home btw). I wish that the governments weren’t crooked and that having a job in the government didn’t mean being a stuffy old business weirdo but meant someone trying unite and connect with the earth,
I wish agriculture was done more sustainably. I wish public transport was so good that cars are obsolete and I wish people used horses instead of cars because it’s better for the environment, it can help someone take care of themselves if they take care of another creature, and also because it’s just more fun
I wish people didn’t revel in making others miserable. I wish it didn’t sound stupid to wish that coins and horses were common just because it’d be more fun and whimsical.
I wish I could be a pirate, and my government (that was super not evil and actually cared about humanity) would send me off on quests. Not to steal or pillage or colonize, but to make friends, do fair trade, learn about the world, and then I’d summarize my findings and put it in a big tome in the governments library and I’d have a cool house slightly away from the eco friendly and bustling city that has a garden that sustains itself by pairing different plants together to help eachother grow, and the local animals would recognize me and be happy I returned from another voyage,
And I’d go to be thinking of all the people I met and helped and traded with, and I’d be grateful because somewhere I’d know there was a worse timeline, where governments were cruel and the environment was dying, and that people scoffed at joy and enjoyed causing pain
Id be sad for that timeline and the people in it, and I’d promise to enjoy my life because me and everyone else in other timeline me’s world have it so much better that what could’ve been
—yearning anon
ugh this is so real. Like if the whole timeline could change that'd be so great. It sounds silly but the freedom of just travelling sounds so amazing.
Have you tried writing? like write about yourself as a pirate. It's a way to escape, at least for a little while <3
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teen angst anon
helloooo I’m back! (Teen angst anon here)
I … fucked up.
yeah the crush I told you about? Turns out he was playing me and mocking me behind my back. AND NO ONE FUCKING TOLD ME! So. Yeah. He also apparently did this to like three other girls in the span of like 36 hours. So I’m not even special. Anyway. Unfortunate, but not altogether surprising developments. I’m gonna go back to being gay now, this wasn’t a fun experience (I’m bi lol)!
oh my god, that's awful. do you know where he lives? I just wanna talk to him (kidding.)
But seriously, please remember that the way ONE person treats you doesn't signify your worth. You are special, regardless of how one asshole acts. It sounds like HE'S the trash, here.
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ted talk anon (new)
Cas do you just.
Feel internalized homophobia so much, hate yourself, call yourself sick, deny your identity,
And then just look at that one specific girl.
And go Damn I am gay.
Bc I am having existinal crisis over this. Like I am not gay- (i have a job so I can't bother with anything that may cause me any type of discrimination lol) but damn if I believed a deity exists I would believe she is the one.
Just so hot. Just so damn hot and I don't know what to do.
Have you ever fell for your coworker? I heard it never ends well and I am afraid a little. She is like- diva, idol or whatever people use for the word perfect at this time.
(and she is Omni!!! I am known as the 'religious girl's sadly bc my family and friend group is too religious -putside of my control lol- and I look religious? And I kinda depend on family still for financial things so)
And people assume I am homophobic immediately.
But like she come out to me three months ago! Like she trusted me to not be a hypocrite and I obviously supported her but I was so happy!!! (People usually expect me to hate all LGBT. I wear hijab so that's why people assume.)
But cas she didn't mind that!!!! I also told her I was bi-curious and unlabeled
Bc I don't know my identity and still having a crisis and denial and also don't know I don't know I am so pissed at myself rn uni and job both sucks and I don't have time and helpppppp
Anyway thanks for coming to my Ted talk, please tell me what you think I am? (I know I don't need labels but that shit is so annoying at this point so)
Can you please suggest some things that I may be? Bc it's hard and I am not too educated on this.
Is there a name for I hate everyone except this very specific person? And not demi, I don't know her long enough just her the moment I saw her and only her
Thx
Hi!
I'm gonna be real, I don't think I know enough about you to suggest some things to look into for labels. BUT I can say (1) I'm so glad you are accepting regardless of your religion and you and this girl have developed a friendship and (2) I think you should take some time to do some self-exploration. Think about not only how you feel, but what you want to DO about those feelings. Like, how do you feel about different genders and at this point in your life are you safe to do anything about it? If so, would you? Do you want to? I don't say this in a judgmental way at ALL, I just say this because I think all of this is important to know at least vaguely before getting in a relationship, you know?
Don't push yourself. It's okay to not know. But give yourself the space to reflect. Maybe write about it, talk with safe people, or express it some other way. You DO have time. You have as much time as you need to figure it out, I promise <3
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convince anon
Hi hon <3
I'm so sorry you had such a rough day. How are you doing now? If this happens again in the future, could you maybe do something sensorily that cuts off the adrenaline? My wife sometimes holds a bit of ice to calm herself. It's safe but still jarring enough to cut off racing thoughts.
I'm sending you so much love <3
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fearless anon
hi cas it’s fearless anon
i gave a placement test today to be moved up to precalc and you need a 80% on it to get into regular precalc and i could do like 90% (i don’t even remember if it was 90% or less atp) and i’m not convinced that i got everything that i did right so idek if i’ll be put into precalc but i’m done with most of algebra 2’s syllabus and i really don’t want to spend another year there. and on the normal track precalc is for seniors but my school is very competitive and there are a few sophomores already in precalc and i desperately want to be in it and i only had three days to study and i know for a fact that i got two wrong and i left out six or seven out of sixty questions and there are others i probably got wrong too and now i’m just freaking out about it like i was fine and now that i’m thinking about my test again i’m freaking out beca i need a 48/60 which means i can only have three other sums be wrong and idk if it went that well and yeah there’s no shame in being in algebra 2 as a sophomore but i don’t want to be ordinary.
and i found out that my school only has clubs on three days and one of the four that i wanted to do has meetings twice a week so i’ll have to give up at least one or two of them.
i have barely spoken to my new friends (?) this week so idek if we’re actually friends or just acquaintances and i’m so tired of all of this bs because i don’t really have anyone to talk to at all in any of my classes.
hi cas, fearless anon (again)
i know it’s too soon to send another ask, given that my last one was yesterday but they put me in precalc!!! it’s on a trial basis for the next 4-6 weeks because i fell just short of the prerequisite but i think i can keep up and that’s the most advanced math class sophomores can take so i’m pretty happy about it.
Hi! Congrats on getting into precalc, that's amazing! and as a sophomore, too? that's fantastic!!!! I'm sorry clubs are only a few days a week. could you maybe do some this year and some next year? Have you been able to catch up with your friends now?
Also dw about sending asks quickly! You're welcome to send them whenever you want!