Anon Advice Asks - August 29
fearless anon, convince anon (new), "phases" anon (new), frog stuffie guy, pg anon
fearless anon
hi cas it's fearless anon (again)
i'm going to crash out. like fr. so yeah we had orientation today, my dad actually came so that was nice and i like my new school and all. but remember the pride alliance club i told you about? the one my mom told me to stay away from? there was kind of a club fair today and i went up to their booth. my parents were watching it apparently and my mom was all "thank god she isn't there" but then they saw me there. she's, let's just say, not happy about it. a lot of "don't get yourself labelled don't do activism you don't need to wear it on your sleeve or wear a badge or whatever our place here isn't secure right now" etc. the people were genuinely so nice and i like them and they seem so sweet and i told them that i would go to the first meeting and i really want to but the thing is my mom is very against it. she said maybe next year i could join but not this one but out of everyone i saw at the club fair today they were legit the nicest people and one of them is taking the same elective as me but unfortunately it's a second semester elective for him and not first. and one of the people there took me to one of my classrooms and she was also so sweet and i really want to join because i'm new and they're nice and i just want to be friends with people like me but yeah apparently that's not happening any time soon. i'm so sick of being around people who are "oh i'm not like other queer people" or people who want me to be one of the aforementioned people.
Hi!
I agree, that's definitely frsutrating- both to not be llowed to join and to have to deal with your parents' attitude. But remember, you can still be friends with the people in the alliance, and you SHOULD if you think they're good people!
I know it's not the same , but it's something, you know? and maybe someday you'll be allowed to go to the actual club.
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convince anon (new)
hi okay im so sorry for dumping this on you and this is so stupid but (redacted)
Hi <3 please call. I promise they will take you seriously and you deserve to have someone to talk to and listen to you. You deserve to be happy and to have support. If you want, you can even inbox me after and tell me how it went! Please call!
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"phases" anon (new)
hi cas!!!!!!!!
uhm I dont really know how to start this but I love being a girl, and most of the time I find so much happiness in it but also sometimes I dont love being a girl, like some times I feel more masculine or androgynous and the reality I was born female sort of doesnt resonate with me I guess?? but it changes so much like for a week or month I feel like a girl but then sometimes (like right now) it just doesnt feel like me i guess?? but I never feel like being a "boy" wouldnt fit me 100 percent but I sometimes id like to be perceived more as that?? I dont really know im so confused. and I understand I dont need to put a label or figure it out all now but at the same time I hate feeling like im going through "phases".
and sometimes I think its because of the environment im growing up and living in, (for context Iv been living with just my dad and brother for 5 or 6 years now). and also im queer (idk if im pan of lesbian or bi so I just go by that) and iv always imagined myself in a wlw relationship so idk.
anyway im sorry for ranting about all of this but idk if its just where im from but this always feels like a taboo subject and I have no one to talk or ask this stuff about you know?
xx
Hi!
I think the important thing to know is that whether or not you feel like this for the rest of your life, and no matter what the cause, your feelings are still real and valid! It's okay to be feeling like this and other people have felt like this, too.
If you WANT to look at some labels, you might try looking up 'genderfluid' or 'demigirl' but like you said, you don't have to have a label or decide anything now. it's okay to just know that sometimes you identify with femininity and girlhood more than others!
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frog stuffie guy
Things are not going well I am in the emergency room and I forgot my frog but I did remember my fucked up bear that I've had since my first birthday and a chocolate that calms me down. I forgot to bring a water but I remembered my laptop covered in stickers. I forgot my importand documents but I brought my notebook with my wild scribbling in
The truth is I neither remembered or forgot any of these. I picked up my college bag threw my bear in and got in the car the hospital sent
-stuffed frog guy (theres a poem there somewhere)
Hi! I hope you're doing better now and I'm glad that you remembered your frog- priorities. If you think of it, send me an update! Sending you love!
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pg anon
Hi!
Loneliness/friends/work- I'm so sorry things haven't gotten any better </3 I wish there was something I could do. I know it doesn't help much, but you arent alone...I'm here to talk to! Also school sounds so overwhelming. Also also...is your friend getting any sort of help? Five times is SO much....
GCSE results - AHHHHH CONGRATS! THATS AMAZING!!!! It's frustrating that they changed the boundaries but still, I'm so proud of you!!!! That's so exciting! I'm sure you're feeling relieved?
My work is - Okay I did not guess it was you lol....I would be a horrible detective. But this work is amazing! I subscribed, I'm excited to read more, it has so many of my favorite things. My only advice would be to change the summary to have more detail about the story? I think people might pass it up as it is now, which is a shame, because I'm excited to read more.
I love your positives!