#corey yeager

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Values are not attained in a vacuum. All of us are formed by the people and places around us, much like a piece of clay. But unlike an inanimate piece of clay, we also bear responsibility for the values we hold. We are participants in our present and future selves. Gaining awareness of our value systems and where they come from gives us power to move forward into our futures with more clarity of what we want to change and what we want to keep. When it comes to value setting, awareness is your power, curiosity is your weapon, and your actions are the story the world will tell long after you’re gone. This is your shot to write a story you’re proud of.

Corey Yeager, How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself

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You may not realize it, but you are the most important person in your life. While you might think prioritizing yourself is selfish or arrogant, I hope to convince you it’s not. In fact, it’s essential to your well-being and foundational to every other question in this book. Facing up to challenges, becoming intentional with your day, making better decisions, improving relationships—you can’t tackle any of those goals until you recognize the position you’re here to play.

Corey Yeager, How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself

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Do you love to win or hate to lose? Sometimes this question alone can give us insight into our personal history and our psyche. Do you want people to congratulate you, or are you more focused on avoiding disapproval? Do you want to turn in the best report in your department, or do you want to make sure you don’t leave any room for criticism? Are you looking to get promoted or to avoid getting fired?

Corey Yeager, How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself

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Curiosity always pushes us into deeper conversations. You have the power to help others move into a space of understanding.

Corey Yeager, How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself

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We all have a story to write. Too often we allow others to write our story. We follow the plot outline they create for us. You’re going to be a doctor since you’re good with your hands. You’re never going to settle down. You’d be a great lawyer. You’re tall; you must be a basketball player. We hear what others think our story should be, and we follow the dreams they set for us. Often these messages come from well-intentioned parents and older relatives who are holding on to their unlived dreams.

Corey Yeager, How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself

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To me, therapy is conversation. And conversation—when there’s humor, openness, and curiosity—is like playing on a playground. We take turns. We tell stories. And neither of us knows what we’ll discover.

Corey Yeager, How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself

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What makes you feel alive? You can get clues by tuning in to your physiology throughout the day. When does your heart rate go up? When does your energy spike? When are you fired up? In the zone? Let’s use the frame the players gave us too. When do you feel the most in control? The most focused? When do you get to truly be yourself?

Corey Yeager, How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself