There are always people who will tell you what you should do. And how you should do it.
That's especially true in performing arts.
For example, all the way back to my daughter's Jr. High performing arts days there were always people, students mostly, who tried telling her what she should do and how she should do it. And so I instilled in her the blunt truth that she's obligated to one person and one person only:
Everyone else can take a seat.
Their "advice" is one hundred percent irrelevant. Because the director's.
Even as late as her senior year of high school there were students telling her how she should perform a role after she and the choreographer had already settled on her performance.
Somebody always thinks they know better than choral directors, orchestral directors, directors of drama, musical directors and choreographers.
Somebody (lots of somebody's, actually) always believes they know better and therefore have no problem ignoring the people with the experience, vision, and responsibility for these productions. They'll walk right up to you filled with their abundant ignorance and tell you how things should be.
So over and over and over again I've said ignore them. Their voices are irrelevant.
Is that cold? Is it aggressive? Is it mean?
Well, sure. You can look at it that way.
Performing arts may be a collective effort... but it's a directed one. The result of a singular vision.
And the implication is this: only one person has the authoritative say. Only one voice matters as far as what's it gonna be and how it's gonna be.
The director. The choreographer. The composer. Whoever's at the top of the particular performing arts food chain.
And trust me. There's always someone at the top of a performing arts food chain. There's always someone on whose shoulders rests the experience, vision, and responsibility of the production, however big or small it might be.
There's always someone who's holding the reins.
Now yesterday I danced around the question of how does my daughter fulfill the role of having full authority in those circumstances where she has that authority?
How does she willingly run the risk of stepping on toes, hurting feelings, and/or.pissing people off?
How does she make the final call...
I'm guessing at this point the answer won't surprise you. I just spent some time teeing it up.
But, sorry to say (especially since it seems a little bait and switchy)...
We have to finish up tomorrow.
:-(