#culminating anon

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Anon Advice Asks - December 5

village anon (new), internalized ableism anon, @teasiswriter, culminating anon (new-ish?), 14 anon

village anon (new)

Hi! I hope you know who you are bc I have to redact your ask...

I know how you feel, I've been there. It's an absolutely awful feeling and it's so hard to ignore. Please know that I'm here for you and thinking about you and I care <3 Try to take it one minute at a time. I believe in you and you can get through this <3

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internalized ableism anon

Hi, it's been a while, but it's internalized ableism anon again! I just wanted to send you a message with a short update. I had my wheelchair fitting and I should receive my wheelchair and electric handbike attachment in January/February. I still sometimes struggle with the acceptance part of it, but generally speaking I'm doing way better with that compared to when I first sent you a message. I am going to do a wheelchair skills training in early 2026 and I'm even kind of looking forward to that, I think doing that with other wheelchair users will help me a lot, both with skills and with accepting my wheelchair. I didn't get to pick a fun colour, but I'm also totally okay with the black chair I'm getting and I can always decorate it a bit. So yeah, a positive message! Thank you again for your kindness! I hope you're having a good day

oh hey I remember you! I'm so glad you're feeling better about the situation! I'm glad you're doing the class- that'll give you such a good support system, especially because you'll have people who understand. I'm proud of you for doing what's best for you and your health!

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@teasiswriter

I may or may not have an anxious attachment style of like, love/care or whatever…

And it’s manifesting in my relationship with the birds 😭😭

Like, I mean to to give them all a super big feast before they left for the winter but I ordered in mid November, and the shop I order from is NOTORIOUSLY slow with their deliveries (but their food tastes AMAZING (to the birds, not me, lol)) and it hasn’t arrived yet, and it’s already snowing!

So now I’m worried that they won’t come back in the spring,

Even though logically, I know that they’ve come back even before I fed them,

And they live here

And they’re not gonna forget about me when they move to warmer weather (I hope)

But I’m just so worried! I miss feeling included when I’d hear blue jays, or how I felt when the birds would sing along to my guitar or chirp directly at me when I was outside 😞😞

To cope I shall be listening to this song literally about waiting for a bird to come back 😭😭😭

hahaha this is so real. Remember, though, animals go off of instinct, so it will be their instinct to come back to you. They won't just change behavior for no reason. Plus, if the food comes late, you'll have extra for next year!

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culminating anon (new-ish)

Hi Cas! This is probably gonna be a long vent :( I have other anon names but like, all the problems and stresses from those anons are culminating in a massive depressive episode

Hi! I hope you don't mind I didn't copy all of your ask

But wow, this is SO much to deal with. I don't blame you at ALL for feeling so overwhelmed or sad. I would feel that way too! I'm shocked you're functioning.

Forgive me, i don't know because you didn't give me your other anon names...do you have anyone who's helpful? Like a teacher, a guidance counselor, anyone like that? Even if they can't DO anything, but like...someone to talk to?

Sending love <3

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14 anon

update: no I’ve not talked to him and my friend was in school again and called him fugly and hes a lil strange looking but so cute like he’s got the curliest hair and just. 🤩

hahaha this made me laugh. I hope you talk to him soon!

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Anon Advice Asks - December 8th

@kat-of-the-kit-variety, culminating anon, 9 months anon, 14 anon, yap anon

@kat-of-the-kit-variety

Ive asked here before anonymously but I cannot remember my anon name. I am a teacher who is STRUGGLING with my job. I am a first year teacher but the issues im having even the 18 year veteran cant solve in her classroom. I'm also annoyed with my admin and special education departments. Essentially, I want to know if you have any advice on how to figure out if I dont like teaching in general or if its my school. Thank you in advance!

Hi!

This is a hard one. Honestly, some issues with teaching are going to always be there no matter the school (unless the whole country/world makes big changes) whereas some issues are DEFINITELY school/district/admin based. I think it depends on the specific issues you're having. You're welcome to DM me if you want to give me details, I'd be happy to talk more! __

culminating anon

Hi <3

I am so so glad you have your guidance counselor and have a safe space there. You deserve that safe space! I think you're right, I think a lot of people who feel this way just wat change, not an end. What if you think about the things you have control over, the things you can change? You can even ask your guidance counselor to help you if you're stuck? It can be hard to focus on the things you have power over when the things you don't have power over feel so daunting, so having help from others is really good <3

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9 months anon

It’s 9 months anon, things are a bit of a mess rn and I’m half asleep rn so I apologise in advance if this is incoherent. Me and (my now ex) girlfriend decided we’d be better off as friends about 2 months ago. We talked, I still don’t have all the answers I’d like but it’s over now. That’s not really the point of this though. 

I thought I could get over her, I haven’t, like at all. I’ve tried to avoid her as much as I can while having classes together and friends who still think we’re together. Which is an entirely different issue that is slowly getting resolved. Anyway I need some advice on how to get over her, because every time I see her I want to die.

Hi!

I'm so sorry about the breakup <3 I have to say though, it's hard to get over someone if you can even fully process it, and it sounds like it'd be super difficult to process if your friends still think you're together. If they think you're together, then you haven't been talking about it, either! You have to talk about it to process it and move on. Also, you have to be easy on yourself...it's only been two months! These things take processing and time <3

Sending you love <3

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14 anon

ohhhh I meant I hope the girl didn’t make her friend go speak to my crush because she also has a crush on him, not that I want him to be dating someone oops

-14 anon

Ahhh okay! Well it sounds to me like now that you know he's single, you have to talk to him! That's the best way to get to know someone, after all!

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yap anon

I'm so scared for my friend cuz she's overworking herself for prelims

She keeps saying she will eat later and that she's fine but I know she doesn't get enough sleep or food and it's making her worse and I am so worried for her she keeps telling me to take breaks when I study but she won't and I don't want her to be very overwhelmed

Hi!

This can definitely be a scary thing, especially since we know these habits can lead to even scarier conditions. What if you sit her down and tell her you're genuinely worried, maybe even show her some studies that prove that people do better on exams after having eaten and slept? Her goal is to do well, after all, so maybe coming at it from an 'I want you to do well' perspective will make her listen more than just telling her to take care of herself.