#dads cw

[proudheron]

hiking today and i left my glasses in the grass when i changed my shirt. because i only need them for long distance, we walked 20 minutes before i noticed. my stepdad-in-law instantly was like "y'all go on ahead, i'll be right back" and jogged away. i cried about it a little. my parents would have yelled at me and called me names. he came back with my glasses and all he said you "wow you sure hid them good!" 😭 at age 30 i finally have a good dad

[adulthooliganism]

:/

saw a tiktok of a guy who looks a LOT like my dad n he was so gentle n he was just like. cooking n. why did that make me sad.

[dogspouse]

me shaking my lover awake: hey. hey. wake up. i dont think having reocurring nightmares about my dad is normal can we talk abt this

[tijuanabiblestudies]

i inherited my dad’s autism and a lot of its accompanying particulars, and also his kickass taste in music, but unfortunately i also got his anger management issues so that’s a current i gotta swim against in order to not be a horribly toxic person

[liberalfartsdegree]

me, screaming into the universe: I wish my dad wasn’t such a DICK

[caterjunes]

my parents are just about to move into a new condo, which they showed me today (home for thanksgiving) and god i just hate it so fucking much. i can't stand it i hate everything about it.

it's a fucking condo mcmansion. it's preposterously huge for just the two of them (their rationale is that when they're retired they'll be spending way more time there & they don't want to feel crowded but i can't overstate how disgustingly massive this condo is). there's useless little nooks and crannies everywhere & ten thousand light switches & gaudy fake columns & the master bathroom alone is half the size of my entire apartment. there's THREE terraces and they'll all be blasted during the summer & my parents will never use any of them

they were looking at a couple places downtown which i was super excited to hear bc my hometown has a fantastic downtown area & they could walk or bike literally everywhere, which as they get older is more and more important (my mom especially has some health issues & is currently trying to walk 4 miles a day). but this place is smack dab in the middle of suburbia, totally unwalkable, nothing reachable by foot or bike without tremendous effort. i don't know what they were thinking.

i guess i also feel really hurt bc they literally didn't even ask my opinion? like i knew they were looking at a couple condos & have been casually doing so for a while, but all of a sudden they were like "we made an offer! we're doing it! here's some pictures of the fait accompli!" and i know i'm not gonna live there but i spend A LOT of time thinking about houses and architecture and what makes a good place to live and it would've been nice to be asked what i think.

i'm also getting bad vibes bc my mom seems very ambivalent at best about it & my dad loves it and i feel like he pressured her into it. i've generally been getting weird vibes from my dad this whole trip (possibly related to my being trans) and just like.... if you need a huge place to live so you can get away from yr wife that's not a good look.

i'm worried i guess. and mad bc this feels somehow hypocritical (still working out how, but it relates to conversations i've had with my parents about me wanting to have a house someday). and hurt. and disgusted by the excess. feel like my parents are covering their ears and shouting lalala at climate change

[lilnasxvevo]

“Haha, your dad’s shitty behavior caused you misery in your childhood that extended into your adult life!” is something that I just will neeeever understand why it’s considered so acceptable to joke about

[lilnasxvevo]

You: Peter Parker considers Tony Stark his dad :)

Me, an intellectual: Peter called Tony “sir” while he was DYING